Words Of Dominance - In A Spanking

It's been a crazy week.  Thanksgiving here in Canada this past weekend, so that meant lots of family.  It's nice to have the house back to normal, though I do love having everyone here. :)

So, the Duke and I were in a chat last night, and it talked a bit about what the Hoh / Dom could say for an tih / sub.  It got me thinking, he hasn't been saying much in the way of anything to help me feel submissive.  I have been doing all I can think of to be submissive on my own, but he used to use his words a lot, and that really helped me.  So he admitted last night in chat that he couldn't think of the things to say.

Today on a date I asked him if we could write down ideas of things he could say during certain situations.  I just wanted to try to find ways to help him.  He loved that idea.  We also talked about how it wasn't just what he said, but how he said it.  With a serious tone, or deeper voice, or with a stern glare, and things like that.

I thought I'd spend a few posts sharing the ideas we come up with in case they can help anyone else. :)

I broke today's ideas up into three sections of a spanking.
- Getting Started
- Fighting A Spanking
- Keeping Her Attention During A Spanking

I didn't add and for ending or for after the spanking, or the lecture in this one because I felt this was already a lot of info for one post.  I do hope to add those in posts in the next week or two. :)

SPANKING FOR PUNISHMENT

Getting Started
- Pants Down / Panties down / Take off Your Clothes / Strip
- Lay over the bed / Climb over my knee / Lean over the chair
- Put that bottom out further.  Make it look like it's begging for the spanking it knows it deserves.
- Hands under your head / linked behind your back / under your chest / stretched out above you / holding onto the pillow
- Keep your feet down / No kicking / Legs apart
- Now, you earned this spanking.  I want you get into position on your own, and then kindly ask for your spanking.
- I'm going to use my hand, the loopy, and the cane on you.  I expect you to stay in place for each one.  Do you understand?
- You're going to be a good girl and be very quiet, aren't you?
- I know this is hard for you, thank you for getting into position without a fight.  This shows me that you are taking this seriously, and accepting your punishment.
- If you're not willing to get / stay in position, you can go into the corner until you're ready to accept responsibility, and admit you need/have earned this spanking. 
- What is your safeword in case you need it?

Fighting A Spanking
- Stop fighting.  If you didn't want to be here, you wouldn't have (name offense).
- Feet down / stop kicking / keep those feet still or I paddle your soles next.
- Get your hands out of the way or I'll cane your palms.
- If you don't stop thrashing about, I'll tie you down/restrain you.  And trust me, if I have to restrain you it will hurt a whole lot more.
- Do I need to add the butt plug to help you calm down?
- This isn't too much.  You can take more, and you will take more.  I've got you, you can do this, but you need to be punished for what you did so that you can release your guilt, and so that I can make sure you never, ever, do this again.
- Fighting this spanking is showing me that you don't think I can lead you.  Is that what you think?  Because if it is, maybe I need to show you with my hand just how ready/equipped/suited for the job I am.
- I don't want to have to gag you, so scream into your pillow if you find you're having trouble keeping quiet.  We don't want anyone to know what is going on in here, do we?

Keeping Her Attention During The Spanking
- Good girl.  You are taking your spanking so well.  I've very proud of you.
- Take a deep breath.  I know you hurt, but you're doing very well.
- I hope you're starting to learn that this isn't acceptable behaviour and that I will not be tolerating it in the future.
- Look at that.  You're turning quite pink.  Let's see if we can't make this a bit darker.  This naughty bottom hasn't paid nearly enough for what you did.
- You're not going to do this again are you?  Because if you do, next time, this spanking will feel like love taps.
- If we're ever here again, with you being spanked over this issue, I will add daily spanking / extra implement / loss of privileges / grounding / etc. to it. 
- I want you to count out these last 20 spanks and then say "Thank you, Sir, may I please have more."
- You're sorry?  Were you sorry before you did this?  Were you sorry when you disrespected me by breaking my rules?  You might be sorry now, but you're not as sorry as you're going to be.
- Girls / Women always make lots of promises they can't keep when they're being spanked.  But I'll be here to help you keep your promises, won't I?
- You need to listen to me.  You need to follow my rules.  And when you don't, you need to be punished, don't you?  You need to have this bottom reddened by me and be reminded of who you answer to.

I'd love to hear if you would have added anything to these lists, or if you have ideas for ending and after a spanking, maintenance/role affirmation/stress relief spankings, the lecture, and words of dominance just in every day life. :)  I hope to do three more posts to help the Duke.  :)  He'll grow into finding his own words, but since he said these would help, I wanted to give him ideas.