Getting The Lecture Down

Submission here is growing, and my goodness, so is dominance.  I was spanked Friday, as you know.  Then on Saturday, I was spanked for no other reason than that we'd been testing out implements again, trying to find ways to drown out the noise.  By the time we were done, I was ready, and so was he.  It was long and hard, and great.  Sunday we didn't... maybe he took a day of rest? :P  And then, last night I was frazzled.  Too many things going wrong, headache, sprained ankle, lack of sleep, and we were about to go to chat (the ADDS chat that happens on Monday evenings for DD and D/s couples).  I told the Duke I needed help.  I can deal with being cranky on my own, but it takes hours.  I try to convince myself to calm down, to take a breath, that I'm in control of my emotions, but it takes hours for it to work.  But a quick trip bent over the bed, with the Duke lecturing like the Dom Boss I'd always dreamt of but never expected to get, and I was in my happy place with a hot bottom and guidelines to follow in two minutes.

It started off like this while getting some snacks ready:
EsMay: I'm going crazy, I might need some help.
Duke: You look like you're doing really well, I can't tell at all that you're upset.
EsMay: I'm like one thing away from losing it.  (complete with embarrassed frown)
Duke: Do you need me to take care of this, or can you do it on your own?
EsMay: I need some help.  (boy was that hard to admit)

He took me to the bedroom, got out the window blind wand, it's about a foot long.  Snappy, but quiet.  He got me to bend over the side of the bed, and then the swats started, but so did the lecture.  This may not be word for word, but it's close, as close as I can remember.

Duke:  I know you're feeling upset, but I expect you to keep calm.  (whack, whack, whack, brought my pants down)  You are not ruled by your emotions.  You can control them.  When we are done, I want this bad attitude to be gone.  (whack, whack, whack, brought my panties down)
EsMay: It will be, it's already working.  You can stop now.  (boy was he hitting hard, harder than normal, and he'd just started on my bare skin!)
Duke:  You don't decide if it's working.  I decide, and I think we need to go longer.  (gosh, darn it all, and my leg kicked up unintentionally at this point because he started hitting harder)  Get that foot down! 
EsMay:  (GULP)  Sorry. 
Duke:  I want you to calm, I want you to let all this flow out of you so that you're in a good mood for chat. You can do this.  I want you to try. (whack, whack, whack, WHACK, WHACK, WHACK)
EsMay: I promise, I'll be calm.  It's already worked.  I don't feel upset or cranky anymore.  Thank you.  (and it was the truth, I wasn't just trying to get out of it at this point)
Duke:  Okay.  I think you are right, it is working.  Remember, I decide when we're done, not you.  Now, if you aren't in a good mood for chat, we'll be right back here afterwards.  Do you understand? (still whacking)
EsMay: Yes.
Duke: You can get up now, and pull your pants and panties back up.  (finally, it stops, thank goodness, we hug and then I pull them up)

And we did have a good chat. :)  I couldn't focus as well as I would have liked, but I still had fun, and we got to discuss some fun things.  It was about DD and Transparency last night. :)  And then one of the Hoh's asked about how each woman viewed their submission afterwards which led to more discussion. :)

The Duke is really stepping into his own, and I don't think he'll need those other posts of suggestions on things to say, but I think I'll still do the posts.  I might do one later this week, just in case they can help anyone else since I've already mostly put them together anyway. :)  Loving this place we're in.  I'm getting lots of swat bys, his hand possessively on the back of my neck or shoulder, attention, kisses, loving, and sore bottoms. :)  I asked him if the things he is saying to show dominance, and the lectures, are what he thinks and feels, or if he's doing what he thinks I expect.  He said they're how he thinks and feels, and it's nice to be able to say them.  I have to agree. :)

By the way, changed my title bar for the first time in like five years... can anyone guess what new implement is there now? :)

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