The Duke and I have been talking lately about this blog, and some changes we'd like to see happening with it.
The Duke has an amazing mind, but I don't get to see a lot of it. I didn't realize how far the Duke has come until he joined the forums that I have been on. He first joined just to join in on the Sunday night chat, but then he started getting involved on the forums as well. His answers floor me, and others have said how much they appreciate his point of view. So I have come to realize the Duke can write his thoughts out easier than he can say them.
We have talked in the past about him writing posts, like he did two nights ago here, but ideas do not come easily to him. But after looking at the forums, we talked, and realized there are still ways for him to be more active on this blog. So, for the next month we are going to try something to see how it works for us. I'll do a blog post like normal, and then he'll share his thoughts about what I talked about. This is for me, and us, as much as it is for you guys. I really feel I'll learn more about his thought precesses this way. :)
For the next month we are going to aim to have him do this at least twice a week. The Duke is not big on writing back long replies to comments, so hopefully that will not bug anyone, though if you have a question, he'll go into more detail for that. :)
So hopefully this trial change will be one you all like. I will still have some of my own posts I believe, but we'll see how well this works to see what happens from here on in. Either way, this blog is keeping on, we're just going to see how this change may go over. :)
Wednesday, February 26, 2014
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That would be awesome, EsMay. I enjoyed his post the other day. It's lovely to see the connection and intertwining. And like you, I always enjoyed reading Ward's point of view, many times it does lead to clarity, a truer understanding, or a confirmation/testament. It's a lovely tool to increasing communication. And this community certainly needs more HoH voices.
ReplyDeleteHey Junie...if ya haven't figured it out yet, you and Ward have definitely been missed. Hope you are doing well.
DeleteYes, I do wish there were more HoH voices because they offer us such a beautiful perspective. :) It will be interesting to see what we learn together through this. :) And I agree with Cat and the others about you guys being missed. {{{hugs}}} But I also understand needing to leave for any number of reasons.
DeleteThat sounds like a great idea. It's always fun when the husbands share. It sounds like a good way to learn more about each other.
ReplyDeleteIt is, Leah, and I'm so excited to see how this goes! :) :)
DeleteI appreciate his willingness to give it a try. We really like hearing from the guys point of view.
ReplyDeleteMe too, I am not sure how much he'll like it, but I hope he does come to like it a lot. :) He has so much to share, so much that floors and awes me.
DeleteHey Es May...loved the Dukes post and would love to read his POV on your post. In addition to just loving what Ward and June had to say, I loved when one of them would write a post and then the other would write their thoughts.
ReplyDeleteHugs and Blessings...
Cat
Cat, I am hoping it goes over well, the Duke shares things, and I learn, but when he's been writing on the forums lately, I am amazed, and so think this will be good for us, and hopefully maybe will help some others out there too. {{{hugs}}}
DeleteI am happy to hear that The Duke is willing to put his thoughts out there. You both have so much to offer. I very enjoyed his blog on tears that I forwarded it to my hubby just to provide some insight as to why I suddenly after many years am quickly moved to tears with spankings. I suspect it is because I am growing in this lifestyle and letting my walls down. I just don't want to scare him off. I am hopeful him reading Duke ' s thoughts will help him understand. Thanks to you both for sharing your thoughts.
ReplyDeleteOH Catherine, I shared this with the Duke, and we'd both be honoured if that post helps you out in anyway. I hope that your husband will see that tears can be a sign of letting go, or release, of hope for better things. :) Thank you for your very kind words.
DeleteCan't wait to hear from him! I love it when Dom's/HoH's chime in on their sub's blog. I'm hoping my husband will contribute to mine in the future.
ReplyDeleteAutumn, that would be great. :) I have wanted the Duke to be more involved in this blog, but starting topics is not his thing. When this idea came to me, he seemed very open to it, so hopefully it will work out okay. :) If he ends up hating it, I won't try to change his mind... though before DD, I might have...
DeleteOh, you lucky girl! How cherished you must feel that he wants to take a more active role here, even if it's temporary. I look forward to seeing his writing here along with yours :)
ReplyDeleteThank you, River. :) I do feel so very blessed. And I agree, temporary or not, I'm so thankful he's willing to give it a shot. :)
DeleteOh Esmay that would be lovely, same as Cat, I also miss June and Ward ( yes hint hint June please come back ) it would be lovely to get a male poV :)
ReplyDeleteI'm looking forward to your next posts x
Thank you, Missy. :) I hope they make for some good reading. :)
DeleteHi Es May and Duke. I think this is a wonderful idea! I have enjoyed the posts the Duke has written and always enjoy reading both POV's. I think you will find it a wonderful tool for your relationship as it will provide each of you more insight into the other's thoughts and feelings.
ReplyDeleteJune, I echo the others :)
Hugs,
Roz
Oh Roz, that is what I really hope for, that we gain more insight into each other. :) That would be such a blessing to me. :) {{{hugs}}}
DeleteI agree, it sounds like a wonderful idea, i love reading two points of view. From what i have read, Duke expresses himself clearly and well. I think this will help not only the two of you, but us also!
ReplyDeleteJune, i think of you and Ward often.....
hugs abby
abby, I feel the same about his writing. And if it helps you guys too, that would mean so much to me, to us. :) {{{hugs}}}
DeleteSounds fun! Maybe you can answer his comments for him to take that pressure off. It would make for a true back and forth.
ReplyDeleteSusie, that is what I hope to do. :) I want to make this as easy for him as I can while he's getting his feet wet and seeing if he even wants to do this. And even after, I'm totally okay keeping up with the comments if he'd like. :)
DeleteThat sounds really exciting EsMay! Looking forward to what the next month will bring for you guys and your blog. <3
ReplyDeleteThank you, Sara, I won't lie, I'm quite excited. :)
DeleteHi EsMay, I think it would be great to read your husband’s pov, too. What he wrote about the beauty of tears really touched me and especially when you explained how much dd and tears have positive effects and how you can let in the good feelings then, I was deeply moved. I think it will help to create an even more complete picture of how you do dd and what it means for you.
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Nina
Thank you, Nina. :) What a beautiful thing to say. I guess I just write what I think and what I feel without censoring it too much, or worrying about others... and because of that, I never really stop to think how it will affect others, but I am glad in this case, it was good. :) {{{hugs}}}
DeleteHi EsMay, I think this is great. I am looking forward to hearing from the Duke.I hope you are having a good week
ReplyDeletelove Jan.xx
Thank you, Jan, I am, how is your week? And I am looking forward to hearing his thoughts as well. :)
DeleteThis sounds fantastic, and I look forward to seeing what the two of you come up with together! Thank you both for making blogland such an inviting and supportive place :)
ReplyDeleteJennelle, wow, thank you, I don't know what to say, but thank you. Blogland meant so much to me when I was searching, still does, but it was so very important to me when I found it, and found out about DD, to think I might offer the same to others means so very much to me. Thank you. And hopefully we come up with some good things to talk about for you guys. :)
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