A Week Of Spankings Finished

So here we go, going to try this new format, and see how it goes. :)

Last night was my last night of  a week long of spankings.  Well, Sunday night fell exactly in the middle, and since I take it as a day of rest, the Duke and I decided to give the spankings a break on that day as well.  Well for me it was because of the day of rest.  For the Duke it was because my bottom was getting very tender, and a bit leathery, so he wanted to give it a day off to give it time to heal some.

I am glad we did this past week.  It really helped me, not just in remembering to do my daily things, like wearing a dress, making the bed, making supper {dinner to some of you}, but it also helped me emotionally.  I have been more centered, more calm, feeling loved and having the Duke's undivided attention through this, and cuddling afterwards.  Well yesterday was not so much this, I was emotional all day yesterday from hormones, but it even helped then because it helped take my mind off of a few problems in my life that were just too hard to deal with yesterday.

I actually am a bit worried to not have the daily spankings now.  But this is good for me to step out from under them, and see how I do.  We will now go back to two maintenance spankings a week like we did before.  Life is a bit overwhelming right now, and my best friend and I are having a misunderstanding that is killing me, work has been crazy because everyone's been sick, my want for a child is coming back, like I said last week, and I don't want it to, and a few other things, so who knows, I still may need to go to him tonight and ask for another spanking, but that is not my goal.

I feel all warm and mushy to the Duke right now, he's taken such good care of me lately.  I did not think the spankings would help me feel even more safe.  I thought by the end of the week I'd be begging to get out of them, but I didn't.  I crawled over his lap every time, and it was great.  I feel so loved and cherished right now, all the bad has been let out, and all I want to do is sit in his arms all day.  But work beacons. :(

Thank you, Duke for taking such good care of me.

- The Duke's Deductions:

I am so proud of my EsMay for getting through a week of spankings. She was overall very willing to allow me to spank her. I am glad to hear that she got so much out of it. I was worried it was just going to be a lot of pain with no reason behind it. I am not sure that I got a lot out of it personally, except perhaps being able to practice my technique and get better control over my spankings. I am finding the keys to spanking success are really the words you use during a spanking, and for the spanking itself it is control. That's why I really have not been working with the majority of the implements we have. The pocket paddle gives me the most control, it is not too long and the surface area is almost the size and shape of the butt cheek. As well, the fact that it is hard and rigid means it is not flopping all over the place, and because it is the length it is I can tell much better where it is going to hit than the full length paddle. Also it is light enough that it does not tire my hand and arm muscles out easily.

These spankings were much more like maintenance spankings than punishment spankings. I would let her know what she was doing right each day as well as what she could be working on. I tried to take time to cuddle with EsMay afterwards as well. I was not always feeling very confident in my leadership abilities before each spanking, but I really believed the daily spankings were important, and so tried to do my best at each spanking anyway. Reading what EsMay wrote above, I believe it was the best choice. It is important as an HoH not to let feelings of weakness cloud your judgement over what is best for your wife or sub. I think we will probably do the twice a week maintenance going forward, as the regular spankings really seem to help EsMay. Anyway, I hope writing about this process may have been good information for some of you if you are ever considering trying this. A strength I see of this blogging community is that everyone seems to try to learn from everyone else, and I think a spirit of openness and willingness to listen to each other will really make everyone's DD relationships stronger.

Thank you for reading this.
The Duke.