Do you ever find that just a few words can make all the difference?
I was getting a spanking last night, {okay, does it ever not get weird, no matter how long you are in this lifestyle, to flat out tell someone you got a spanking? lol} anyway, I was getting a spanking, and for some reason couldn't settle down. I'd been spanked a few days in a row {working on stress relief and getting me back into the swing of things after being sick for over a month} so it was hurting, and I didn't know if I could take the pain. I was sadly wiggling all over the place.
Then the Duke spoke. "All you need to do right now is submit to me." And all the sudden, my body stilled. I fought so hard to stay still before that and was failing. I kept telling myself to calm down, and just relax over his lap, to be good for him, to honour him, but it wasn't working. :( Yet that one line, and my whole body went limp.
Have you ever had that happen to you during a spanking, or happen to the one you are spanking? I have no idea why on my own I couldn't calm my body down, and yet as soon as the Duke spoke, it worked. I'm glad it did, it was tiring wriggling all over the place, and I couldn't find my submissive place... but it also bothers me that I couldn't do it on my own. :(
I was getting a spanking last night, {okay, does it ever not get weird, no matter how long you are in this lifestyle, to flat out tell someone you got a spanking? lol} anyway, I was getting a spanking, and for some reason couldn't settle down. I'd been spanked a few days in a row {working on stress relief and getting me back into the swing of things after being sick for over a month} so it was hurting, and I didn't know if I could take the pain. I was sadly wiggling all over the place.
Then the Duke spoke. "All you need to do right now is submit to me." And all the sudden, my body stilled. I fought so hard to stay still before that and was failing. I kept telling myself to calm down, and just relax over his lap, to be good for him, to honour him, but it wasn't working. :( Yet that one line, and my whole body went limp.
Have you ever had that happen to you during a spanking, or happen to the one you are spanking? I have no idea why on my own I couldn't calm my body down, and yet as soon as the Duke spoke, it worked. I'm glad it did, it was tiring wriggling all over the place, and I couldn't find my submissive place... but it also bothers me that I couldn't do it on my own. :(
Duke, for your endless patience with me, thank you. {{{hugs}}}
I need to hear those same words too, EsMay. It is wonderful the way the Duke speaks so calmly and to the point just when you need it the most. Right now I am having to talk myself through spankings because now they are very real and with very real consequences. I need to "hear the words spoken" to make an impact. You are one lucky lady that the Duke gets this. Funny how this posting came at the right time because I had planned to gently bring this need up tonight. Thank you for sharing.
ReplyDeleteI am glad that this post reached you just when you needed it, Catherine. :) {{{hugs}}} And hearing words spoken are so important in a spanking. I find if there are no words, it's too easy to get stuck inside your head, and drift from the reason you are there. I hope your talk goes/went well.
DeleteMy guess, you need to hear he had you.
ReplyDeleteThat may have been part of it, not sure to be honest.
DeleteHey Esmay :)
ReplyDeleteThe Duke really knows what to say to you and how to bring you back. Very sweet :) when I'm struggling Balu usually asks me to think about whether I need this or not and not fight it, that works well as usually I agree that it's needed, mind you sometimes I still wanne get up pull my pants up and run lol
I'm glad things are working out for you x
I wonder why we need the reminder? I think part of it is we get so focused on the pain, and not on them. I am glad things are working out for you too. :)
DeleteHi Es May, this made me smile :) I love how the Duke handled it. You have such a wonderful man there who knows what you need and how to bring you back. I also love that you submitted straight away.
ReplyDeleteWe want to submit, but we all know how difficult it can be and I think we just need those words at times. I think maybe when we hear them it reinforces his expectations and that he is in this as well which makes it easier to submit.
I remember a conversation we had a while back, when we were trying to get back on track after DD having been on the back burner for a bit and Rick telling me I had to do my part too. Not just him. I needed to submit as well as him needing to step up in his role. Boy did that make me sit up and take notice!
Hugs,
Roz
Roz, that is true, we have to meet them in this, it can't be all left to them, that is too much for any man. I am so glad he has you as much as the Duke has me. :) {{{hugs}}}
DeleteEsMay, I absolutely loved what you wrote about how the Duke could hold you and calm you down the moment he talked to you. That’s so sweet and I think it also shows how endlessly you trust him.
ReplyDeleteI could also relate so well to what you wrote about the wriggling which you experienced first. Naturally, we usually don’t want that, but it still happens now and then. When I have such a moment, hubby uses similar words and I also feel pressure and unrest fall off. :) I guess it is either magic or this lovely mix of endless trust and love.
Hugs,
Nina
Well, since I don't really believe in magic, I'll go with it being about trust. :) Before all of this, I don't know how much I trusted him, but I'm starting to see that he's earned it, and I'm willing to give it. :) {{{hugs}}}
DeleteWords are so important.....it has happened, the words He uses are different, but have the same outcome is the same, i relax and accept. You two have something very special.
ReplyDeletehugs abby
abby, I think that is awesome. Every couple will have their own words, their own way of saying things, and that is what makes it special. :) {{{hugs}}}
DeleteYou needed to know he had you, even if he was the one spanking.
ReplyDeleteMaybe. I am glad that he does have me. :)
DeleteWow. I think that's amazing that you guys have that connection that he is able to calm you with the right words. I am always so inspired by the relationship that you and the Duke have!
ReplyDeleteWow, Tomsrose... I don't know what to say... thank you. We're just learning it all as we go along.
DeleteWords are SO powerful in this lifestyle. It's the whole "I don't want to have to ask you, I want you to tell me" concept. That's why punishments don't even need to involve spankings--sometimes words alone can get the job done!
ReplyDeleteThere is an amazing power in words, and there is a beauty in that. :)
DeleteFor me, words make all the difference in the world! Last night was the first time in a while I had been spanked, and Colin started off counting the spanks and not saying much of anything else. I could not get my head into the right mind set at all! Soon after, he seemed to sense that, and as soon as he started lecturing a bit - It made SUCH a big difference!
ReplyDeleteOh, and no matter how long I've been writing a blog about being spanked, yes it DOES still feel so weird when you stop and think you're telling people about getting spanked. So weird, lol.
I find the same, Kenzie, I find I cannot get my head into the right place if there is no talking, because then I start focusing only on the pain, and not why I am there. Thankfully the Duke knows I struggle in this area, and is very willing to help me. And so glad I am not alone on finding it weird to still say spanking! LOL
DeleteI am all about the words too EsMay, I recently had to ask my husband to please talk to me during a spanking & afterwards we were talking & I explained that when it's especially hard to take I need to know he is with me-that I am not stuggling alone & said "baby girl you are never alone" I had already stopped crying at that point but those words made me start up all over again because I just felt so loved. So glad the Duke was able to read you so well!
ReplyDeleteLove,
Scarlet ; )
Wow, Scarlet, that is truly beautiful. :) I am so glad you have the memory to take with you, and what a precious one it is. :) Thank you for sharing. :)
DeleteI loved the beginning of this post. I agree it does feel weird saying we got spanked even though we all do!
ReplyDeleteLove how the Duke handled the situation. SM has done things like that before as well and it does seem to have such a calming effect. I was getting spanked the other evening and I kept sliding off the bed and he said something about submitting to him and staying on the bed, and I stopped sliding. We do love to hear their words, don't we?
hugs
sara
Wow, sara, that is awesome. It sounds like you had much the same thing happen as we did here. I don't know why it worked, I'm going to have to think more on it, but I'm glad it did. :) {{{hugs}}} Oh, and glad I'm not alone to still find it weird at times to say I got a spanking. lol
DeleteI totally agree, saying/writing any version of "I got a spanking" is weird and humbling for me too. Sounds like he knew just what you needed, lucky girl!
ReplyDeleteRiver, I guess there are a few of us who feel the same way. At least I'm not alone. :) And I am blessed indeed, and so thankful that he knew what to say to me in that moment.
DeleteYes, agree it feels weird to write about spanking. No worried about not being able to do it on your own. That's what husbands are for =).
ReplyDeleteHehehe, so many of you said the same thing, I am so thankful. :) And it is great to know he's behind me when I can't succeed on my own. :)
DeleteHe's got you and you've got him...that's all that matters Es May! You two are so adorable and really make me smile.
ReplyDeleteHugs and Blessings...
Cat