So, before I blog today... I just wanted to share a note. I noticed all this week how long it actually takes me to keep up with blogs. It's been several hours every day this week. So in sitting down and talking with the Duke, I now am to lower this amount of time.
I do feel this is a good decision. But I wanted to let those of you know that comment here that I will still be continuing to check your blogs as well. :) I have decided, in talking with the Duke, to not worry about keeping up with blogs that may not visit here for the time being. That isn't to be a snob, or anything of the like, but just what I am able to handle right now.
Now, if you write on here, but I haven't visited your blog yet, feel free to let me know that you have a blog I can check out. :) I really hope I don't offend anyone in doing this, it's just something I really need to do. Right now I am over a day behind, and I did blogs for hours this morning. LOL So I do see the wisdom in stepping back to only bloggers who I communicate back and forth with either through chat or comments. :)
So, anyways. On Sunday, the Duke got take out Swiss Chalet for us. When he was on the phone, they kept asking him what he wanted for condiments. He said some butters, nothing else. He told them a number of times that he DID NOT want ketchup. He got very stern, and I was a bit shocked to be honest.
Well, when he went to pick it up, he said that in the condiments back there were a number of ketchup packages. Now, what he told me next SHOCKED me! He dumped the bag on the counter, told them he had said he didn't want ketchup, and then put the butters back into the bag. I almost died of embarrassment, even though I hadn't even been there.
I asked him about it, asked him if he'd been rude. Asked him why he did that to the poor counter girl. His response? "If you want me to get assertive in areas of my life, it's going to over flow into other areas of my life."
Wow, What??? Yeah, I had to stop for a minute. He was right. I did want him to be more assertive. But how do I help him become that assertive man, and not worry about the fact that I worry he might have been rude to the unsuspecting counter girl? I wanted to push the issue, I wanted to make him see my point of view, but I knew that that would be wrong.
So I left it. He's right. It will spill over. In fact, on Monday night, he exerted that assertiveness again. Our landlord is moving, and called us up and offered us a table, we were on speaker phone with him. I wanted to take a look at it, the Duke shook his head no. This doesn't happen. :( He always lets me do what I want to do. So, I asked him very quietly so that the landlord couldn't hear us if he was sure, I wasn't trying to challenge him on it, I just wanted to make sure it was how he really felt, and not just making a rash judgement. He indicated that he was certain. My heart sunk for a minute, but I followed his lead. I told our landlord thank you, but that we didn't need another table. And we don't, but I did want the chance to look at it.
I am glad I listened though. I am glad that I chose to respect the Duke, and not challenge him on it, or defy him. And in all honesty, after all the purging I just did, I do not want to be bringing new things into our home.
Getting used to the new sides of the Duke is different than I thought it would be. But he's becoming more self confident, and that is what I wanted for him. :) I may have to give up a few things here or there to let him room to spread his wings, but that's okay. :) He deserves it. He needs that room to learn to fly. I have to be willing to give it to him.