It is a small dowel, thinner than my pinky. We got it because my parents are here again and the Duke determined I needed a punishment. Yet, all we had were paddles. LOUD paddles. So, someone online told us on the weekend that their husband uses a dowel on them. We decided to try it.
Here it is. I cut it down to 15 inches long, and then sanded it down, and added a hockey grip to it, because it was too slippery otherwise. I figured the last thing we needed in a spanking we needed to be quiet was to have it flying out of his hands and through our mirror or door, and then having to explain that instead of a beating noise. ;)
So the Duke decided I needed a spanking so that I didn't forget again. Insert bawling, because I was already emotional from being so tired, and I couldn't handle being told I wasn't taking good care of my daughter, who means the world to me. He then said that even if I'd beaten myself up for missing the two doses, and would never miss again, that he felt I also needed the spanking to let go of all the guilt.
With parents so close, he didn't even do a warm up with his hand so they didn't hear, he did his best to do a warm up with the dowel. He spanked just hard enough for this to leave a lasting impression, plus two welts, and put me in the right head space. I cried, and then needed time to process afterwards. Which, I am glad I had to take time to process, because the Duke just sat there talking to me while I was over his lap, rubbing my back and bottom in gentle strokes. I'm not sure I've ever felt that cherished. It was so nice.
At the suggestion of several people in a chat room I like to go to, we also got a five gallon paint stick to add to our now small collection. I think they must have different ones than the ones we got here! LOL Look how long it is! It's the one on top. :) So this is our collection now. I think we have ALL we need. I hope the Duke agrees! ;)
Yes, we hadn't spanked in a while and I wasn't planning on it. But I realized talking to EsMay that our child missing her medication was important to me, so I felt like it was my responsibility to do something. I knew that it was a bad week for her and it didn't seem fair to add to it, but I also realized that sometimes it can help to know there are boundaries and consequences, and I thought it would help her to know I did care what happened to our daughter. Anyway, we had already been thinking about how to handle spankings with other non-DD people in the house, and the dowel and paint stick seemed like 2 really good ideas. When I had them in my hands the paint stick still seemed like a paddle, while the dowel seemed like something I hadn't tried yet and I am glad I did. The results of the dowel seemed a bit harsher then I would have expected, which isn't a bad thing. I did want to make sure EsMay wasn't left feeling wrong after the spanking so I tried to make sure she was taken care of after. Anyway I think overall it was a good experience for us so I am glad I tried it.