tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post7661383302291670875..comments2023-06-13T11:57:48.024-03:00Comments on Submitting To Be Led: Learning To Ask "How High?"Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-943349158727871172013-07-12T19:25:44.074-03:002013-07-12T19:25:44.074-03:00Hehehe, glad you understood. :) Yeah... sounds so...Hehehe, glad you understood. :) Yeah... sounds so simple. We'll see how we do. :)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-30293222907933884262013-07-12T13:46:09.602-03:002013-07-12T13:46:09.602-03:00Aw, I was teasing about the ice cushion for your t...Aw, I was teasing about the ice cushion for your tush - kinda! ;-) Cat does have a great idea about that forever comfy cushion, though. If it's the one I recall, the trucker in the ad claims it makes his bottom feel better. Okay, so I feel a little widgy hearing him say that, but if it works, it works! <br /><br />I did understand your hardcore month wasn't all about the spankings. You both agreed to turn it all over to him, he will lead strongly, you will follow completely, and mistakes will be forgiven so you can find your strides and fine-tune your dd. Acceptance, forgiveness, enthusiasm, teamwork, communication - with forward progress as your goal.<br /><br />Gosh, sounds so simple. :-) I know it will take hard work and open hearts. I'll be cheering for you! Irisheyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12270910306787125881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-29491568703655395612013-07-12T08:44:06.130-03:002013-07-12T08:44:06.130-03:00Thank you, I will have to take a look. ;) But it ...Thank you, I will have to take a look. ;) But it isn't the spankings that will be hard core, I meant more that we'll do DD hard core, the Duke will step up and call me out on more things instead of debating if I need grace I the moment or not. I just want to help him learn more that he doesn't have to be so easy going on me. We'll see how it goes. :)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-57334098304010790782013-07-12T08:42:55.800-03:002013-07-12T08:42:55.800-03:00You are right, we all have our learning curves. :)...You are right, we all have our learning curves. :) Thank you, Angel Blue.Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-38377791345191029562013-07-12T08:42:13.781-03:002013-07-12T08:42:13.781-03:00LOL, chuckle away, Irishey. I do to others at the...LOL, chuckle away, Irishey. I do to others at their posts. LOL I did relinquish the kindle, but I won't lie, I didn't really have a choice. Without realizing what he was doing, he grabbed it right out from underneath me... so I wasn't really noble... I didn't get a chance to get a choice. LOL<br /><br />LOL, I guess I mean hard care as in, he'll step up every time he sees me misbehaving and call me on it without debating if he should let it slide or not. I don't anticipate the spankings getting harder... or I hope not much harder! :)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-33343894812759062642013-07-12T08:40:02.044-03:002013-07-12T08:40:02.044-03:00Roz, that is a wonderful way to put it. :) He doe...Roz, that is a wonderful way to put it. :) He does take his job seriously, and it has taken me a while to see that his inaction is not caring, but time needed to make the right decisions. :) <br /><br />And thank you, I hope we learn a lot this month too. :)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-33003420743738571002013-07-12T08:38:44.778-03:002013-07-12T08:38:44.778-03:00Janey, that is something we still have to address....Janey, that is something we still have to address. Usually, if he is wrong, he sees that, and is okay with new ideas. I haven't had him yet do something I thoroughly was against... am wondering how I will handle that. Well, except when I WANT to stay up, and he says NO. lolEs Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-81811133038552800652013-07-12T08:37:41.525-03:002013-07-12T08:37:41.525-03:00Hehehe, I'm with you, Callie. :) Love it, it&...Hehehe, I'm with you, Callie. :) Love it, it's almost addicting letting go. :)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-24008928727839640052013-07-12T08:37:14.431-03:002013-07-12T08:37:14.431-03:00Thank you, Maura. It has been fun, and finding ne...Thank you, Maura. It has been fun, and finding new ways to submit is exciting. I'm glad for what we've learned so far, and what we will continue to learn.Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-2854607979328149172013-07-12T08:36:27.005-03:002013-07-12T08:36:27.005-03:00Tara, each step I take in this, the freer I feel. ...Tara, each step I take in this, the freer I feel. So beautiful. :)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-25050138223655490332013-07-12T08:35:43.829-03:002013-07-12T08:35:43.829-03:00Wow, Dana, I would love to hear some examples some...Wow, Dana, I would love to hear some examples sometime. :)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-6833742607946503012013-07-12T08:35:16.431-03:002013-07-12T08:35:16.431-03:00Thank you, sunngirl, hoping it will be a blessing ...Thank you, sunngirl, hoping it will be a blessing for us both. :)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-4335426930730198092013-07-12T08:34:40.140-03:002013-07-12T08:34:40.140-03:00Yeah, I was speechless too, LOL. Probably why I w...Yeah, I was speechless too, LOL. Probably why I was getting the smacks in the first place. LOL<br /><br />I do love him... and do want him to be able to grow. Even if we weren't in DD, even before, I wanted him to learn that he could take some risks, and that mistakes were okay. :)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-24297980748473516602013-07-12T08:16:26.977-03:002013-07-12T08:16:26.977-03:00Yes, Kim. :) I did end up talking to him about it...Yes, Kim. :) I did end up talking to him about it when I was about to have my third smack. ;)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-22529610270574499632013-07-11T22:37:29.137-03:002013-07-11T22:37:29.137-03:00Hey Es May...hard core for a month? Good gravy......Hey Es May...hard core for a month? Good gravy...can we say owie? Don't remember if you were around when I write about the forever comfy...go read here...http://gigglesgrinsandreflections.blogspot.com/2012/10/ouch-ahhhh_28.html. You might want to consider investing...actually saw them in Wal-Mart the other day. ;)<br /><br />Very happy to hear how well you and the Duke are doing with your communication and responses. He is stepping up and you are stepping back...awesome! <br /><br />Sending lots of positive energy!<br /><br />Blessings,<br />CatCathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14266606975978680188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-1920756853788131252013-07-11T13:22:27.339-03:002013-07-11T13:22:27.339-03:00Everything is a learning curve for everybody. You ...Everything is a learning curve for everybody. You can also find me at http://justhissubwife.blogspot.com (use to be trazures dark cove) Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04805071633671355739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-22117997850345368072013-07-11T11:27:40.142-03:002013-07-11T11:27:40.142-03:00Hi, Es May. So wrong of me to chuckle over the fli...Hi, Es May. So wrong of me to chuckle over the flip-smack, but I did. Glad your words finally came. Plus, you not only did that thing that was good for you (should one ask?), you relinquished your Kindle and went to sleep. How high, indeed! <br /><br />Hardcore for a month... Do you have ice cushions on hand?<br /><br />You sound really positive, so I'm happy for you! Well, you don't sound thrilled about the fact spankings hurt, but, you know, other than that things sound great! <br /><br />Hugs, <br />IrisheyIrisheyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12270910306787125881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-50352185676885926342013-07-11T06:35:09.462-03:002013-07-11T06:35:09.462-03:00Hi Es May,
You are so right. It is such a peacef...Hi Es May,<br /><br />You are so right. It is such a peaceful, contented feeling to give over that control. <br /><br />I love the love and commitment both of you have to each other, and to ttwd. It is so wonderful and heart warming to come here and read about your journey and how you are growing, both as individuals and as a couple.<br /><br />It is so great that you recognise this need in him to further grow and learn as Cali said. I think you said it yourself in this post. Some of the hesitation comes from the fact that he takes his job as HoH seriously and is therefore anxious to make the right decisions, do the right thing. He doesn't want to act on knee jerk impulses. A sign of a loving, caring and committed HoH :)<br /><br />I hope the month goes well for you. I'm happy for you!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-35638126780578334822013-07-11T05:07:30.793-03:002013-07-11T05:07:30.793-03:00I agree about how good it can be to totally hand o...I agree about how good it can be to totally hand over control totally. That's not to say it isn't still hard at times though. I find it especially hard when I think he is in the wrong.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-66586333231200760242013-07-11T01:57:48.506-03:002013-07-11T01:57:48.506-03:00Handing over and losing the control is such a wond...Handing over and losing the control is such a wonderful feeling to have. Love it!<br /><br />CallieCalliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08722173496181331492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-72481467309501218722013-07-10T23:13:54.423-03:002013-07-10T23:13:54.423-03:00For me, the submission part is one of the most sa...For me, the submission part is one of the most satisfying parts of my life with my man. Handing over my trust, my faith...it is wonderful. Enjoy exploring submission! Maurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15080921606805805623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-69819628132175595152013-07-10T23:12:09.739-03:002013-07-10T23:12:09.739-03:00Maybe the loss of control is letting go...And ther...Maybe the loss of control is letting go...And there is huge freedom in that.violinwidowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09653092300943017358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-42678984820526948632013-07-10T20:36:59.611-03:002013-07-10T20:36:59.611-03:00Good deal. We have something like this when he fi...Good deal. We have something like this when he first gets home. It's called... Immediate obedience. I have noticed, the longer we do this, the quicker immediate is...Danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13148756931282483079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-14975137624555767202013-07-10T15:04:56.422-03:002013-07-10T15:04:56.422-03:00Happy for you. Interesting tactic on both your pa...Happy for you. Interesting tactic on both your parts.Aimless Ramblinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00720714875762344391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-39642706566955867692013-07-10T14:34:16.819-03:002013-07-10T14:34:16.819-03:00I think you are pretty special to recognize that y...I think you are pretty special to recognize that your hubby needs extra room to grow, make mistakes, and how to learn from them, since his mom never gave that to him. <br /><br />It makes me smile to see how much you love him. And it makes me smile to visualize him "flipping" you over so many times to get you to talk to him. (I would probably be so shocked I would be mouth-wide-open speechless, lol). <br /><br />I'm really happy for the both of you....<br /><br />((hugs))<br />CaliAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com