tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post4750075241909052467..comments2023-06-13T11:57:48.024-03:00Comments on Submitting To Be Led: He Needs Room To FlyUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-10547688924623170332013-05-20T07:48:50.963-03:002013-05-20T07:48:50.963-03:00I think the confidence does spill over into all ar...I think the confidence does spill over into all areas of life. They have to be wholehearted--just like us and not be different people in different places.<br /><br />Don't worry about the blog stuff. There are so many blogs. LOL, you can see how far behind I am in reading. Sometimes I can catch up and sometimes not. You have to decide how much time you have and how much time is healthy. Nobody can read everything and comment as well.Susiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00511114118020790717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-4491531019254142472013-05-17T11:24:33.119-03:002013-05-17T11:24:33.119-03:00Well now that makes TOTAL sense! I'm such a do...Well now that makes TOTAL sense! I'm such a dork! ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-73366729982034239262013-05-17T11:02:41.826-03:002013-05-17T11:02:41.826-03:00Fear not you didn't make it sound like that at...Fear not you didn't make it sound like that at all and anyone who knows you, knows you are not like that. I actually have removed my blog roll due to 'drama'. I hope you get spared that issue :)williehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01907855123777628267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-13733762492502325902013-05-17T10:16:02.530-03:002013-05-17T10:16:02.530-03:00Oh wow, I never meant for it to sound tit for tat....Oh wow, I never meant for it to sound tit for tat. :( I am really sorry about that. Have had that happen to me with blog rolls, "add me and then I'll add you to mine". Funny, I never would do it for them. lol I did decide last night that I will try to get to what I get to, and that's that. :) I might miss some posts, but this way on days I have more time, I can get around to more blogs, and if I don't have enough time, I won't feel bad about missing blogs I usually visit. :)<br /><br />I told him that I did wonder if the person packing it didn't get to see the order once the food was prepared. They might have just known that ketchup goes in with the fries, and butter goes in with the mashed potatoes. They have always been so nice to us there, and they all know me now, so I doubt it was intentional, and that was a lot of me feeling embarrassed, because they are always so nice to me. LOL, yeah, I'm glad I wasn't there either. My bottom would have been on fire too! lolEs Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-30026638792161929462013-05-17T10:13:00.995-03:002013-05-17T10:13:00.995-03:00I am glad you like my blog, thank you. I am alway...I am glad you like my blog, thank you. I am always humbled when people read. I feel like I have so little to share.<br /><br />Yeah, I would have found it hard too if my husband always got side tracked when shopping. Though, I do see his point. People should have to be accountable for stealing, stores shouldn't need to lose money. And you're right, we can't know what life would have been like if we'd let our husbands lead from the beginning, but at least we're letting them now that we know what works for us. :)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-11183386909568569402013-05-17T07:10:45.267-03:002013-05-17T07:10:45.267-03:00Hey EsMay
There are lots of blogs that I read, bu...Hey EsMay<br /><br />There are lots of blogs that I read, but don't comment on and lots of blogs that I follow that I find myself not always reading anymore. You will find the ones that speak to you. I would consider though not just sticking to those you talk to often, because your circle will become smaller if you do that. There are as many varying opinions and advice as their are people. BUT what I would consider is not feeling the pressure to comment on every post your friends have. Blogging, in my mind anyway, should not be tit for tat, (not saying that you sweet EsMay have that mindset) Not well he/she doesn't comment on mind, so.....if you feel the urge to comment and add something, do so that day. If not, no biggie, just move on and maybe another day.<br /><br />As for those guys at Swiss Chalet, could be they were being jerks, or could be that the person packing the bag was unaware of the 'request' made by Duke. He does seem to be more confident. I would agree, I wouldn't have wanted to be there either with him when he did that, MY bottom wouldn't have faired well ..wink<br /><br />love, williewilliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01907855123777628267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-61591339205165010922013-05-17T00:06:34.196-03:002013-05-17T00:06:34.196-03:00My husband was always assertive in public, as he i...My husband was always assertive in public, as he is a retired police officer. Sometimes when I couldn't find him in a department store, I would start worrying about him "getting involved in stopping crime." I hated it, when I'd end up having to wait while he got the manager, and then waited for police on duty to pick up some shoplifter he caught. I told him to quit looking, that he was OFF DUTY. Anyway, I have shushed him more times than I can count. He doesn't hide his wishes. I tell him that because he's a little hard of hearing, he can't whisper without other people hearing. He feels it's his job to police other people's children "Hey, Hey.. Quit running, you're gonna hurt someone"... "Take your hat off, Son. Don't you know you are in God's house?"... Right there with the parents there. But he is playful with everyone, life family also. Children are actually attracted to him. One time I was waiting in line at a pharmacy, and my husband was tired of waiting in the car. In came in saying "What is the problem? What is taking so long?" I just walked out of the pharmacy and got in the car. I was more worried about what people thought when I was younger, and I was embarrassed. It shocked him that I walked out. I told him that I wasn't going to stand there while he made a scene. It's a good thing we weren't in a DD relationship then, because he wasn't too pleased. I sure have said a lot to make a point. Anyway... my husband is not really assertive with me. I sorta just broke him of that early in our marriage. Made him wish he had kept quiet. Now, I sorta regret it to some extent. It's hard to say what life would have been like, if he had more control. Maybe better, maybe worse. I just know it's right for us now. It's hard to teach new tricks to old dogs, like us though. I agree with the computer time. It can take away all free time. I don't post much on my own blog, and I seem to over comment on other people's. I enjoy your blog, and your way of writing. Good luck with the changes, may they all be good. God bless you and yours, Belle L.Belle Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10222752720181960143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-45890633401064109742013-05-16T21:35:06.340-03:002013-05-16T21:35:06.340-03:00I have to start being good!?! I WASN'T told a...I have to start being good!?! I WASN'T told about this! ;) hehehe. It's good that I am normally good then. :) Hopefully he doesn't start asking too much though. Though he is really good about that. :)<br /><br />It is hard to keep up. I do find that I feel a little relief today. I do want time to have my house looking good, spending time with the Duke, and to have time to relax. That can't happen right now when I'm in training full time, having test every week until the first week in June and needing time to study. Ah, to be done training, to be smart, and not having to worry about studying. *gulp* That is for another post on another day. ;)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-9604324434524020452013-05-16T19:57:09.300-03:002013-05-16T19:57:09.300-03:00Yes, my bottom is VERY grateful that I listened! :...Yes, my bottom is VERY grateful that I listened! :) lol<br /><br />Oh, Swiss Chalet is in Canada, a WONDERFUL chain. And I had to laugh so hard at your question. He had fries, I had mashed potatoes. So it wasn't for one dish. LOLEs Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-11730904093742554432013-05-16T19:55:26.541-03:002013-05-16T19:55:26.541-03:00I don't get to every post either, I have been ...I don't get to every post either, I have been trying, but now I see the wisdom in cutting back. It was stressing me out, and the Duke doesn't want me stressed, especially when I'm supposed to be relaxing. Go figure. LOL<br /><br />Wow, we should write a warning, or manual. lol This is what will happen when your husband grows in such and such an area in life. LOL That is great that he is doing that for you, for him, for your family. :)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-12768787248323780782013-05-16T19:46:55.195-03:002013-05-16T19:46:55.195-03:00LOL Here's hoping he doesn't give you a ru...LOL Here's hoping he doesn't give you a rule then. :) <br /><br />Wow, that's awesome that he was able to tell his dad he wasn't going because he'd already been over there a few times that week. It's good to put a limit, so that he has time for himself, and also for you both. :) That must have made you feel so good! :)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-82654964763348469182013-05-16T17:20:07.128-03:002013-05-16T17:20:07.128-03:00sunnygirl, you are so right! :) Grow in life, gro...sunnygirl, you are so right! :) Grow in life, grow in love. I like that. :)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-82867706829676608122013-05-16T17:14:56.812-03:002013-05-16T17:14:56.812-03:00Oh, totally nervewracking! :) Maybe that is what ...Oh, totally nervewracking! :) Maybe that is what the Duke is doing, trying it out with strangers. :)<br /><br />I have thought about going media/digital free on Sundays. I used to do it, and wondering about doing it again. Not quite certain. And thank you for understanding. :)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-59027639644414940002013-05-16T17:11:52.169-03:002013-05-16T17:11:52.169-03:00Thank you, Sarah. I hope it will all work out to ...Thank you, Sarah. I hope it will all work out to be more time for the Duke and I. :) I hope I can keep making sure I don't contradict him. I'm sure there will be times I'm tempted, but I'll keep working on it.Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-62374303806809779272013-05-16T17:08:53.751-03:002013-05-16T17:08:53.751-03:00LOL I'm glad I'm not the only one that ha...LOL I'm glad I'm not the only one that has struggled. lol Thank you for sharing. :)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-53877530538296201772013-05-16T17:05:30.298-03:002013-05-16T17:05:30.298-03:00Yeah, really! There should be a warning sign! :) ...Yeah, really! There should be a warning sign! :) I am glad that when he stepped up that he didn't become too hohy with the kids. :)<br /><br />It can be tough, I want to read everyone, I want to support everyone, but it can be too much. I love everyone here, and I hope those I stop catching up on as much will understand.Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-30796260136107216662013-05-16T16:18:56.479-03:002013-05-16T16:18:56.479-03:00Hi honey :)
Hmmmm when HOH's find their footi...Hi honey :)<br /><br />Hmmmm when HOH's find their footing and become more confident, it's time to really start to be good hehe<br /><br />Dont worry so much about reading and commenting blogs. It really is time consuming, I know as I spent so much time here in blog land, I used to forget every thing else. Well H has helped me realise this and has really restricted my time, with big consequences shall I go over :( it's something I had to get used to, but I feel much better, getting my chores done, and when I do come here, now I just read and comment on what I can :) <br /><br />We shouldn't forget real life, it's a lesson I had to learn ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-51210723083661184942013-05-16T15:56:45.258-03:002013-05-16T15:56:45.258-03:00Yea for you EsMay! For following his lead, even th...Yea for you EsMay! For following his lead, even though it was hard at the time, you did the right thing. You probably saved yourself from a not so fun spanking too! ;)<br /><br />I'm not familiar with Swiss Chalet - that must be an east coast thing? But you've got me wracking my brain trying to figure out what kind of food could go with either ketchup or butter? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-84925615151928022192013-05-16T14:10:58.604-03:002013-05-16T14:10:58.604-03:00I don't blame you for finding a way to cut bac...I don't blame you for finding a way to cut back on your time in blogland. I would imagine it's impossible for anyone to read all the posts on all the ttwd blogs. There are blogs that I used to read that I don't anymore, there are blogs that I'd like to read, but just can't really add more blogs to my list right now and there are the blogs that I do read, but even those, I don't manage to read every single post.<br /><br />I think it's great that you were able to step back and follow his lead on the table. And I understand what you're saying about him stepping up in other areas and needing room to spread his wings. I've noticed that with Michael as well. ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-11366800631719384262013-05-16T13:28:09.456-03:002013-05-16T13:28:09.456-03:00Steve has commented a few times about how much tim...Steve has commented a few times about how much time I spend on the computer, but so far hasn't imposed limits on it. It would be a huge adjustment if he did.<br /><br />As far as that assertiveness carrying over, I've noticed that with Steve as well. He's a nice guy and for a long time, had a hard time saying no to people. After we had been doing TTWD for a while, it seemed to get easier for him. Now he puts his foot down more often, especially when he sees that someone is trying to take advantage of him being so nice. He even surprised me the other day by telling his dad no when he asked him to come over and do something for him (he'd already been over there a couple days that week).Danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09466617466439016915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-29659766359614364912013-05-16T12:50:50.277-03:002013-05-16T12:50:50.277-03:00We all need to spread our wings. After all, chang...We all need to spread our wings. After all, change is growth and isn't that what we are all trying to do - grow in life and love.Aimless Ramblinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00720714875762344391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-48147145817969739182013-05-16T12:45:40.683-03:002013-05-16T12:45:40.683-03:00It's pretty cool to see them stepping up like ...It's pretty cool to see them stepping up like that but it can be a bit nervous as well. Tm would do some of that anyway, mostly with strangers like at a restaurant or store. However now he seems more confident about it and comfortable with it.<br /><br />Definitely understand the blog thing. Most of the time I don't even sign onto blogland at all over the weekend. That time is set aside for Tm and I since he works so much. I don't want to miss anytime with him you know? Then I come back on Monday with a whole weekends worth plus Monday to catch up on lol. I definitely don't manage to comment on them all lol.<br /><br />I'm sure anyone from blogland understands the time consuming nature of blogs and will understand. :)Mischiefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15206940756218059735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-70346801044388225992013-05-16T12:22:02.968-03:002013-05-16T12:22:02.968-03:00Blogging can be a huge time dump. I think you'...Blogging can be a huge time dump. I think you're making a wise decision. :)<br />That's great that he's becoming more confident AND that you are letting him, that you are helping him by not contradicting him. You guys are awesome!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04798113123590131798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-33431117135567247482013-05-16T12:08:48.097-03:002013-05-16T12:08:48.097-03:00That's awesome that he's becoming more con...That's awesome that he's becoming more confident Es May! My husband does the same thing with people haha I die of embarrassment when I'm there to witness it but there is nothing wrong with being assertive :) -StubbornAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-2175378140195203202013-05-16T09:30:38.102-03:002013-05-16T09:30:38.102-03:00When they step up, look out! Lol I think the bigge...When they step up, look out! Lol I think the biggest area I worry about him being "hohy" not with me is with our kids. It is something I have feared from the beginning. He hasn't become a bully but I did fear it! ;) <br /><br />I totally hear you on the time consuming nature of blog land. I probably need to put some serious limits in my time. It can be tough! Colehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14094102802633154552noreply@blogger.com