tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post2151200892667990110..comments2023-06-13T11:57:48.024-03:00Comments on Submitting To Be Led: Don't Care About My Happiness ;) Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-19456053945664237062013-08-10T23:28:42.146-03:002013-08-10T23:28:42.146-03:00LOL Yeah, it can be dangerous to show husbands ar...LOL Yeah, it can be dangerous to show husbands articles on DD when you're deserving of a spanking. They don't need anymore ideas at the time. :) I am sorrying that things have been so hard for you with your dad. I totally understand the not being sure if you can trust or not. I love my mom again, but there are still situations where I wonder if it is actually safe to trust her. I hope you will be able to find the right line to walk with your dad so that you can give him trust, but know where to also listen to your inner voice. Thank you for visiting, and for your prayers. :) You have mine as well.Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-91763930682099007482013-08-10T23:00:57.157-03:002013-08-10T23:00:57.157-03:00I too believe my husband doesn't want to add t...I too believe my husband doesn't want to add to my pain, therefore isn't so good at holding me accountable. I love that he loves me that way, but I've tried to reassure him, even thanking him for "doing his job" after being punished. I also understand the "go to bed" thing. I would probably stay up all night every night, if there were no expectations, and then be mad at myself and feel bad the next day. Even if I protest a little at the bedtime, I always can't help but smile. It's usually not a "right now", but will be like the next hour or less. We are slowly getting to a DD relationship. I'm sorry that things have been so hard on you, over your life. I don't have a really great relationship with my dad. I had no relationship with him for 10 years, because I had cried way too many tears. I never felt he loved me, because all the bad memories blocked any good memories. He now says the things I always wanted him to, but I have a very hard time trusting him like a daughter should be able to trust a dad. My mom was my saving grace in my childhood. This post of yours really speaks some of my thoughts. I was thinking "Amen" or "Thank you" in reading it. I may copy it and show it to my husband. I will make sure I'm not in trouble when I do. I can't help it.. anything I have him read, I make sure I'm not deserving a spanking when I give it to him to read. Lol. May God bless you with better days ahead, full of smiles and blessings. Love and prayers, -Belle L.Belle Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10222752720181960143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-33862584272245467022013-08-09T09:12:07.959-03:002013-08-09T09:12:07.959-03:00Thank you, Roz. I am honoured that my posts make ...Thank you, Roz. I am honoured that my posts make you smile. :) With all the growing, the Duke still seems a bit unsure of leading, and following through, but with all the break throughs we/he's making, I do not feel it will be too long before he is comfortable being the HOH. :) <br /><br />LOL yes, he does not sit with me often, but I LOVE it when he does. I don't know, there is just something very innocent in it all, and I find it beautiful. LOL My friends would probably think he was trying to micromanage me, but he so isn't.<br /><br />He is amazing, I'll have to let him know you said so. :) {{{HUGS}}}Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-67457824610419702942013-08-09T06:21:19.579-03:002013-08-09T06:21:19.579-03:00Hi Es May,
I smile every time I read here. You h...Hi Es May,<br /><br />I smile every time I read here. You have dealt with, and been through so much and overcome a lot. I truly admire your positive outlook and attitude. <br /><br />I understand this. I guess it is natural for them to want to see us happy and try to do things to make us happy. I'm so glad you were able to communicate to the Duke what it is you really need in these moments and that he understands this and is giving you what you need.<br /><br />Love what you said about him sending you to bed. It is those moments that make us feel loved and taken care of and of course, it does feel hot too LoL. I especially love that he sometimes sits with you while you get ready and tucks you in.<br /><br />You have an amazing man there and it sounds as though you are going from strength to strength in your relationship :)<br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-33047338151367697682013-08-08T21:54:02.691-03:002013-08-08T21:54:02.691-03:00LOL Oh, Callie, is that it? ;) I'll have to ...LOL Oh, Callie, is that it? ;) I'll have to let him know. hehehe He did say I was really cute after reading my post... and said absolutely nothing else. lolEs Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-63316888191311128062013-08-08T21:53:05.490-03:002013-08-08T21:53:05.490-03:00LOL Willie, so true, so true. That is something ...LOL Willie, so true, so true. That is something I'm going to have to learn I think, I either let him try to make me happy, or as you said. OUCH! *gulp*<br /><br />There are so many layers, it's amazing, and if I'd told the Duke how many, if I'd even had an inkling, he would probably have run for the hills. LOL But now he likes to talk, and I'm finally learning so much about him, and us. :)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-57377896217419533462013-08-08T21:51:30.478-03:002013-08-08T21:51:30.478-03:00I was just saying in my comment above about how mu...I was just saying in my comment above about how much we talk now. :) It really is one of the beauties of DD. :) I am glad that you and Ryan were also albe to talk and realize what you really needed. :) The funny thing is, I knew what I needed, but it took so long to process why, and be able to put it into words. Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-940257799328269592013-08-08T21:49:42.181-03:002013-08-08T21:49:42.181-03:00Thank you, Grace. :) I feel so good about our grow...Thank you, Grace. :) I feel so good about our growth, I did not understand just how deep DD can go, I really thought we knew each other before DD, well a lot anyway. Now I feel we hadn't even scratched the surface. We talk and process so much now, I really like that.Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-31457124371146510612013-08-08T21:48:29.622-03:002013-08-08T21:48:29.622-03:00Oh, I like warm fuzzies. :) Thank you, Jennelle, ...Oh, I like warm fuzzies. :) Thank you, Jennelle, it's been less than a year, but it does seem like a long journey, but I look at how far we've come... man, back then I thought I knew it all! lolEs Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-47567839956977586112013-08-08T21:47:34.145-03:002013-08-08T21:47:34.145-03:00You know, I have been thinking about those... I th...You know, I have been thinking about those... I think it's time I brought them up. :) We did do some playful spanking before DD, but it's been a while.Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-3224421655093135762013-08-08T21:46:53.920-03:002013-08-08T21:46:53.920-03:00Thank you, Angel Blue, I really do hope the visit ...Thank you, Angel Blue, I really do hope the visit goes well. :) Thank you for visiting my page. :)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-24653637391279436732013-08-08T20:10:29.352-03:002013-08-08T20:10:29.352-03:00He loves you , he loves you :) that's why it f...He loves you , he loves you :) that's why it feels so hot when he demands things. <br /><br />CallieCalliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08722173496181331492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-72874758054381509612013-08-08T19:36:18.133-03:002013-08-08T19:36:18.133-03:00I believe once I told Barney, ( after we talked ab...I believe once I told Barney, ( after we talked about this at length several times...) " I don't want a wife! Please stop trying to make my surrounding better and do 'my' things when I am not in the right spot". Harsh? Yup. It did sink in though. Well for the most part. He still tries to make me feel better first. Which is a good thing I suppose. Otherwise OUCH!<br /><br />So many different layers of communication aren't there? <br />love williewilliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01907855123777628267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-10707191763477292592013-08-08T18:05:33.290-03:002013-08-08T18:05:33.290-03:00I understand what you are saying. When I am stres...I understand what you are saying. When I am stressed....Ryan tries so hard to just make me happy. The more he does that...the more stressed I get. It took a long time for him to realize what I really needed.<br /><br />Oh Es May, it is a process. And it certainly sounds like you guys are doing well. Keep communicating. It is really the only way. <br /><br />Hugs...<br /><br />~LucyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05065154899098398575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-69877084624455560742013-08-08T14:29:51.894-03:002013-08-08T14:29:51.894-03:00Aaawww, it sounds like you and Duke are really gro...Aaawww, it sounds like you and Duke are really growing in your relationship. How sweet that he just wanted to make you happy, but I think it's great that you were able to explain to him what you really needed from him and that he stepped up to the plate to give it to you. You have certainly traveled a rough road Es May, but still you continue to move forward. I think that's very brave. (((hugs)))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-44859494530086531932013-08-08T12:08:55.267-03:002013-08-08T12:08:55.267-03:00This post gave me the warm fuzzies :) Good for you...This post gave me the warm fuzzies :) Good for you, you should be proud of your personal progress. Duke sounds like he had a deeper understanding of you,thanks great!<br /><br /> I'm jealous of your nap ;)Jennellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16417771951192212286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-29732662335942795442013-08-08T11:54:49.828-03:002013-08-08T11:54:49.828-03:00You know there are good girl spankings too. Let D...You know there are good girl spankings too. Let Duke know you need one of those. It's great stress relief and could be just the ticket.<br /><br />Good luck.Aimless Ramblinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00720714875762344391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-85644696039981564982013-08-08T11:53:17.605-03:002013-08-08T11:53:17.605-03:00im glad things are getting better for you and enjo...im glad things are getting better for you and enjoy the visit with family. I'll check out the book thanks for suggesting it.Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04805071633671355739noreply@blogger.com