The Kinky Disciplined Advent 2018 Is Here!!!! :) :)

The Kinky Disciplined Advent is here. :)  I have had so much fun putting this together.  Baker helped me with some ideas, and both she and the Duke looked over the final ideas for me after I weeded out the bad ones. 

I'll post the day's challenge each day at 3:00am EST.  Because that is late in the day for people across the world, I am putting the whole list out at once so you can still have it.  There are a few games that you might like ideas for.  I'll post ideas, like for the Kinky Truth or Dare, two days before hand so that everyone around the world will get them at least a day early to look at.  Some of the kinkier stuff happens closer to Christmas. :)

Some days have two options, feel free to do both, or pick just one.  And some days you can do something as a dynamic only activity, or turn it into a kinky activity.  If you're only interested in one area, look for these colours. :) 

GOLD - For all things sexy and kinky. 

RED - For all things spanky.

GREEN - For all things in the D/s, DD dynamic.

Some of these may seem involved, but even just 5-10 minutes a day to make sure you're connecting is great. Please feel free to pick and choose as you like, and there are some extra ideas at the end if you don't like one of the days but still want to do something. :)  Also, if something is too tame for you, like the number of swats in a spanking, just double it or triple it to your needs. :)

For the sake of making this easy to understand, I usually wrote Hoh and tih.  When I say he for Hoh and she for tih, that was just to keep things simple in my own head when writing.  If your relationship is different, just reword it for how it works for you and your partner. :)

If you'd like others to know you're doing this, leave me a note in the comments, and I'll list your blog on the December 1st post. :)  Have fun everyone.  :)  If you have ideas you'd like to see added for next year, I'd love to hear them.  I'll put them all in a document to look at next year.  Happy Adventing everyone. :)

I hope you'll want to join along, and please feel free to share on your blog or with friends to get the word out. :)

I should add, this is probably best to do this with someone you are in a long term relationship with, as some of the days require a lot of trust.

And remember everyone,

every single idea you use here must be

SAFE, SANE AND CONSENSUAL.

The Kinky Disciplined Advent - 2018

Day 1 - Saturday
- Let's start us off with a de-stresser.  40 Swats with something Leather like a Tawse, Paddle, Strap, or Belt.
- Buy or start making a New Implement or Sexy Toy and wrap it up for Christmas when you're done or it comes in the mail.  (Check November 30's post for ideas of household items you can turn into implements if cash is tight and you'd rather not make one.  It will also have a list of blogging friends approved sites for shopping. :)  I will also include at least one implement DUI post)

Day 2 - Sunday
- Food fun.  Set out three food items of choice for your hoh to choose from for either him to spread on you or for you to put on him for a blow job to remember.  Chocolate, whipped cream, peanut butter, whatever melts your butter.  (The Duke heard about using pop rocks from some tih's a few weeks ago, and has been asking ever since.  I think I know what I'll be trying if I can find some, lol)
- If you do not enjoy oral, I'm sure you can find some other way to please your partner. ;)

Day 3 - Monday
- Sit down together and create a list of daily chores, shopping, gift wrapping, stuffed stockings, Christmas dinner prep, etc to tackle for the month, or just the week before Christmas. This is so the house is in a state you all can relax in when company comes, and there isn't last minute frantic running around the weekend before Christmas. 

Day 4 - Tuesday
- 50 Spanks Bare Hand over the lap while wearing a butt plug.
- Never say never.  Pick which of you would like to do this most.  Now have your way with them.  They are not allowed to say a single word unless needing to use their safeword.  To mix it up, also add that they can't move.  If they do, stop playing until they settle down.  Or you can cuff them to an under the bed kit, or tie their hands together to increase their feeling of submitting to whatever you want to do.  You can do the 50 spanks for the day with them this way. 

Day 5 - Wednesday

- Blindfold the tih for part of the evening, even just ten minutes, making her depend on her HoH for help and direction to build trust.  Praise her as she trusts you.  To mix it up, put ear plugs in and direct her by touch alone, or talking against her cheek/ear so other sounds are barely heard.

- To mix it up even further, take this to the bedroom afterwards and do a bit of sensory deprivation play with sight and sound gone.

Day 6 - Thursday

- Set a time goal, and see if you can tease your partner that long before they reach completion.  Tell them they can't go until you tell them.  10, 20, 30, 60 minutes?  To mix it up, do more than one, increasing the time between as you go.

Day 7 - Friday

- You've hit a week.  That deserves a Good Girl Spanking with her favourite implement.

Day 8 - Saturday

- Hoh’s, have your tih kneel at your feet or sit on the bed, naked if they are comfortable with it, while you are still clothed standing above them.  Hold their chin, stroke their hair, hold their shoulder, whatever seems natural to you.  Remind them of how proud you are to have their submission.  Remind them who is in charge, who they belong to and answer to.  Give them a few compliments on how they look and how you like how they behave. The power exchange here can be powerful and beautiful.

- Hoh’s, leave a hickey on your tih somewhere.  The more private the better.  Every time they see it, they'll think of you.  To mix it up leave a couple, some she can see easily, some only you can see.  To mix it up more, your tih can leave one on you as well.

Day 9 - Sunday
- Take some play dough or clay and see if you can spend the evening recreating parts of each others’ bodies.  Or do the same with drawing.  If the images aren’t too risqué, we'd love to see some posted on your blog. :)  (I'll post an easy play dough recipe a few days before hand in case you want to make it.)  To mix it up, make your partner expose on their body each part you create for the rest of the game.

Day 10 - Monday
- 50 Swats with HoH's implement of choice with the tih wearing nothing but the shoes (or barefoot) the Hoh chooses.  Hair and makeup done the way the HoH likes.

Day 11 - Tuesday
- Do something you normally don't like or avoid, but would really please your partner.  ie. make their favourite food that you don't really like as much, or do one of their chores they don't like.

Day 12 - Wednesday
- Sext, sexy email, voice mail, or what have you, every hour or two, or leave sexy letters in your partner’s coat, briefcase, wallet, etc,  about something naughty you want to do when they get home.  Have your bedroom all clean, romantic music, candles if you like, sexy lingerie or underwear.  Fulfill all your promises of the day.

Day 13 - Thursday
- Test how good your sub is at counting under pressure.  Set a number, 20, 30, 50, 100, or what have you, make her count each spank until you reach it.  To mix it up, have various implements where she can't see them, and keep switching every so often so she never knows what's coming.

Day 14 - Friday
- Write two letters, they do not have to be long.  One thanking your partner for something they do in your dynamic that you love.  Give that one to them today.  Write another one telling them why you love them and save that one for Christmas Day.

Day 15 - Saturday
- In the privacy of your own bedroom or home, play a game of Kinky Truth or Dare.  Remember, no Hard Limits or anything Dangerous. (Will post some naughty truth and dare ideas on the 13th)

Day 16 - Sunday
- Show your naughty side by writing a play scenario that you can live out that night with your partner.
- It's been a few days since an advent spanking, so add one to your story if you'd like one, and make it just as juicy as you'd like. ;)

Day 17 - Monday
- Sit down together and set a new goal for your relationship for the new year.
- 50 Swats with tih's implement of choice with the tih naked.

Day 18 - Tuesday
- Naughty elf on the shelf.  Put your elf in a naughty position and see if your partner can mimic that position.  Keep this away from prying eyes of any children though. Use a stuffed animal or drawing if you don't have an elf.

Day 19 - Wednesday
- 40 Spanks with a Ruler or Spatula.  Have the tih’s hands tied together, or to something sturdy.
- Hoh's, pick out clothes you’d like her to wear on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day.  You may want your tih to dress more feminine, submissive, or flirty.  To mix it up, Hoh’s maybe let your tih pick your clothes for the same day. Maybe she wants you to dress more dominant, more dressy, or sexy that day than normal.

Day 20 - Thursday
- Okay, tih's, we've been very good so far this month... haven't we?  A little too good?  I say we need a prank day.  Agreed?  :)  So, what can you do?  Don't get yourself into too much hot water though, you can't blame me if you do.  hahaha ;) 
Mismatch all the socks in his drawer?  Fold all his underwear inside out?  Or replace with yours?  Short sheet the bed?  Make him do a 3 minute scavenger hunt to find his keys (don't make him late for work)?  Stuff tissues in his shoes?  Just remember, have fun, but don't make him too angry... you still have a few more spankings in the near future. LOL  And keep things safe. :)
- Use a special toy to stimulate your partner to completion, or have them use one on you.  To mix it up, see if they can go more than once in a certain time period, or keep switching between toys.

Day 21 - Friday
- Oh, Doctor, I have an ouchie.  Well then, someone needs a full body exam.  You? Him?  Run your hands all over, comment on colour, size, shape, investigate the parts you love, the most intimate parts that may make them, or both of you, blush.  Comment on reactions. ;)  Give orders for positions you need them in to check each area, remind them you expect them to be a very good patient.  Use a flashlight or magnifying glass for an even more up close look.  And don’t forget to be very thorough.

Day 22 - Saturday
- We're in the home stretch, and hitting the most stressful time before Christmas.  It's time for the trifecta to help let it all out.  Hohs, get your tih to pick out her favourite implement, her least favourite, and one you choose.  25 swats with each.  To mix it up, try one with her standing against a wall, one leaning over the bed, and one over your lap.

Day 23 - Sunday
- Guess the sensation.  Cool, cold, warm, hot, sharp, soft, velvety, feathery, hard, rough etc.  One of you is blind folded, the other at their mercy.  Can you guess them all?  No matter where they’re used on your body?  (I will put up a list of items you may have around the house on the 21st to help play this game with a warning not to read the list if you're the one who this will be played on. hehe)  To mix this up, bind them.  Or constantly work on arousing your partner while making them guess.  Every time they guess wrong, or take too long, stop playing, or playfully spank them, until they guess right.

Day 24 - Monday
- Have your Hoh choose an implement for you to keep with you all day.  Something small enough to keep in your purse or briefcase, or perhaps a toy either worn on your body or in your pocket to remind you of who's in charge. 
- Wear the outfit your partner picked for you on the 19th if it was for today and not tomorrow.
- Top the day off with a quick spanking with the implement you carried around all day, even just a few swats for fun and connection after a busy day. 
Tomorrow is the big day! :)

Day 25 - Tuesday - CHRISTMAS DAY
- You made it. 
- Gift your loved one with the implement you bought or made, and with the shorter letter from day 14. 
- Wear the outfit they picked for you on the 19th if you didn't last night. 
- Find time tonight if possible to try out your new toys, or make plans to as soon as possible. 
- Spend a few minutes in each other's arms, being thankful for the blessing of each other on top of all your blessings today.

If one of the days doesn't work for you or your partner but you still want to play along, or you want to add on some more fun, feel free to try a few of these kinky and spanky suggestions. :)

1. Ask your partner to tell you at least three different ways they like to be teased or do foreplay.  Also ask them their favourite ways to be intimate.  Later in the day take all the ideas except the intimate one, put them into a hat, box or bowl, then pull them out to do, one by one until they’ll all gone, then do their favourite way to be intimate to top the night off.
2. Play a game of Strip Poker, or any other game that requires stripping as you lose.  Winner picks what will be done in making love that night.
3. Play Simon says.  Take turns, see how naughty your commands can get.  What punishments can you come up with when one moves without Simon saying?
4. Play Dirty Scrabble or Boogle.  You can only make romantic, erotic, sexy, naughty, kinky, sex toys, body parts, etc., words, or words with connotations that would normally be tame like enter, push, swallow.
5. Try a new implement or one you haven't used in a while.
6. 30 Strokes with a Paddle or Wooden Spoon naked from the waist down.
7. Good girl spanking with Hoh's favourite implement.