Sunday, April 08, 2018

Shifting Pride

Tonight is the Wrestlemania.  The Duke doesn't watch other sports, though sorry to any fans, I'm not sure I can call WWE sports. :P  So he and a friend get together once a week to watch on Tuesday nights, and then special events once a month, usually on Sundays.

Tonight is the biggest night of the year.  I wanted to make it special for him, and he absolutely loves the Spinach and Cheese Dip I make.  It's a bit of money, but I wanted to spoil him.  Now, something like that, I'd used to usually only make if I really wanted to impress someone.  But my focus is changing lately.  I knew the Duke would like to have some, so today I made two.  They're now waiting to go into the oven later tonight.  The men have pizza for now. :)

Before we got stronger in DD, and even in the early days of DD before my respect really got to be formed, I would have still made the dip, but so that I would look good to our company, I am ashamed to say.  Tonight I made it for the Duke, and the Duke alone.  There wasn't a thought at all if the friend would like it or not.  I was surprised that I honestly don't care if his friend has any.  The Duke may never notice the difference, but my heart does. :)

We talked last night about starting a weekly maintenance again, wish my poor bottom well. :P

17 comments:

  1. This is a big shift, girl. Good for you. I like to get up everyday and think, "What can I do to make Eric's life a little better today?" It's almost a game now; the two of us with the same mindset. Nice.
    Amy

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    1. Thank you, Amy. :) Awww, I like your game... I try to do things to make his days better, but I'm not sure I try every single day. I like that idea. :)
      EsMay

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  2. Hi EsMay, this made me smile :) What a wonderful shift and I'm sure the Duke will notice and appreciate your efforts. It's lovely when we do things for each other :)

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Thank you, Roz, I hope he'll notice over time. :)
      Hugs, EsMay

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  3. When we started ttwd years ago, Barney didn't notice too much of a difference ( even in my act like you are living it before you bring it phase). I continued to do 'my things' around the house, but my heartset had changed. I wasn't doing it just because it needed to be done- but because I knew he appreciated it. Actually it makes scrubbing the floors a bit more rewarding LOL.

    Now that we are more D/s orientated ( for us the major difference between Dd and D/s is Dd is reactionary D/s is proactive ie: In Dd Barney responds to my actions or inactions, where in D/s he sets up situations or demands certain things from me to help cultivate our dynamic on a daily basis), household 'chores' or cooking specifics are laid out at times which gives me more insight to his likes and dislikes on any given day but also reinforces that what I do pleases and is important to him.

    All this to say, funny how the exact same actions change or deepen in their meanings as we progress in our dynamic.

    willie

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    1. Willie, that is so true about D/s and DD, that one is proactive and one is reactive. That might be why a lot of times I feel more D/s. :) And it is so true, I'm doing the exact same things, I'm just doing them for different reasons. Even if he never notices, I'm happier. :)
      EsMay

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  4. Same is true here...in fact M left early this morning on a business trip, told me He would text as soon as he landed,...I just sent him a surprise text to see when he opens his phone...just to make him smile. It feels good this change of heart we seem to experience...hugs abby

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    1. OH, abby, I bet he loved that! :) And it does feel really good, this change of heart. I feel the endorphin rush just thinking of it. :)
      Hugs, EsMay

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  5. Thank you Esmay I really appreciated the dip. My friend seemed to like it as well as he kept taking more

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    1. Awww, thank you, Duke. I'm glad you both liked it. :) I wasn't sure when you two finished off a whole dish by yourselves. ;) Hehehe, just teasing. Love you. :)

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  6. I'm new to your blog, EsMay. Thanks for visiting mine :)
    From our perspective, I do find a change in has begun in "the things I do" for Frank ... much more focus on his needs than pre ttwd.
    Good luck with the maintenance scenario ... as I've said comment on another blog ... here's to a red bum and a warm heart ;))
    ... nj

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    1. LOL, thank you, NoraJean, for the wishes for my maintenance. I think he's starting tonight or tomorrow. And it's amazing the things we learn from ttwd that I never would have thought of. :) At first it was for my needs, and now it's about our needs, and maybe even more his needs. I love it.
      EsMay

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  7. i love how the focus has shifted from looking good to doing it for him. good on you! (PS I wrote you back... I hope you received my email. )

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    1. Thank you, Fondles. I'm liking it too. :) I wrote you back, I am so sorry about that, I still don't know where my first reply email went to. :( SERIOUSLY hoping I didn't send it to a vanilla friend by mistake! LOL

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  8. I too love to do things to make my Bear happy. Nice of you to make the dip for the Duke, EsMay. Sure sounds like he noticed and appreciated your efforts. Way to go!
    Going to email you for the recipe, if you don't mind sharing.
    Hugs Lindy xx

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    1. The email bounced back even though I used the email address in your blog here. Can you email me please EsMay lindylouthomas1979@gmail.com
      Thanks Lindy

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    2. Thank you, Lindy, he was very pleased with the dip, and it made me happy. :) I ended up getting an email from you after all, but it was like an hour after you wrote here, so not sure if it's the same one or not. I sent you the recipe, please let me know if you get it or not. :) It will show an attachment because I sent two photos so you could see what kind of dip it is. :) I hope you enjoy. :)
      Hugs, EsMay

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