"So today I want to talk about disagreements because you have asked much about them. Does being the leader mean my wife never gets her way? no. NO NO NO NO NO. In fact, when any struggle for power, any struggle to come out on top is removed, I’m MUCH more inclined to listen better to her, to really understand her and then to make a decision that is best for US. Before, I wanted my way, would shout my side, would fight to win. Life is easier this way even if she gets her way more often. Now that there is no struggle, winning doesn’t matter, what’s best for us matters. The problem is, she’s so smart that she’s often right. Before, admitting it meant I lost, now admitting means We win."
This is us. This is the Duke and I. When people don't understand why I want to be a submissive wife, when they say that's degrading, and stupid, and I obviously have no respect for myself, I just want to scream that they don't understand. But this, this paragraph, sums up so much I wish they understood so awesomely! I actually get my way more often in being submissive. I am much happier. I am trusted, my value is seen, I am listened to, not just in words, but in entire meaning. What I say, think, feel, it matters way more now. I honestly cannot think of one thing I have sacrificed in being submissive. I can give you a list of one hundred things, or more that are better, but I honestly cannot say one way in which being submissive has been wrong for me.