Saturday, October 01, 2016

Our New Implement

Here is our new implement... and I have to admit... quietly, that I'm glad we got it.

It is a small dowel, thinner than my pinky.  We got it because my parents are here again and the Duke determined I needed a punishment.  Yet, all we had were paddles.  LOUD paddles.  So, someone online told us on the weekend that their husband uses a dowel on them.  We decided to try it.

Here it is. I cut it down to 15 inches long, and then sanded it down, and added a hockey grip to it, because it was too slippery otherwise.  I figured the last thing we needed in a spanking we needed to be quiet was to have it flying out of his hands and through our mirror or door, and then having to explain that instead of a beating noise. ;)

So my spanking was over my daughter's medicine.  We are now down with ear infections as of June... so of course, she had to go and get tonsillitis.  :(  I forgot two days in a row to give her one of her three daily doses.  On Sunday night I didn't sleep, AT ALL.  I mean it, I feel asleep from 4:30-4:35, and that was it. :(  So, then baby girl was up every night being sick, and I was just trying to function.  I felt horrible.  I bend myself over backwards to take care of her, and I did this.

So the Duke decided I needed a spanking so that I didn't forget again.  Insert bawling, because I was already emotional from being so tired, and I couldn't handle being told I wasn't taking good care of my daughter, who means the world to me.  He then said that even if I'd beaten myself up for missing the two doses, and would never miss again, that he felt I also needed the spanking to let go of all the guilt. 

With parents so close, he didn't even do a warm up with his hand so they didn't hear, he did his best to do a warm up with the dowel.  He spanked just hard enough for this to leave a lasting impression, plus two welts, and put me in the right head space.  I cried, and then needed time to process afterwards.  Which, I am glad I had to take time to process, because the Duke just sat there talking to me while I was over his lap, rubbing my back and bottom in gentle strokes.  I'm not sure I've ever felt that cherished.  It was so nice.

At the suggestion of several people in a chat room I like to go to, we also got a five gallon paint stick to add to our now small collection.  I think they must have different ones than the ones we got here!  LOL  Look how long it is!  It's the one on top.  :)  So this is our collection now.  I think we have ALL we need.  I hope the Duke agrees! ;)

The Duke's Deductions:
Yes, we hadn't spanked in a while and I wasn't planning on it. But I realized talking to EsMay that our child missing her medication was important to me, so I felt like it was my responsibility to do something. I knew that it was a bad week for her and it didn't seem fair to add to it, but I also realized that sometimes it can help to know there are boundaries and consequences, and I thought it would help her to know I did care what happened to our daughter. Anyway, we had already been thinking about how to handle spankings with other non-DD people in the house, and the dowel and paint stick seemed like 2 really good ideas. When I had them in my hands the paint stick still seemed like a paddle, while the dowel seemed like something I hadn't tried yet and I am glad I did. The results of the dowel seemed a bit harsher then I would have expected, which isn't a bad thing. I did want to make sure EsMay wasn't left feeling wrong after the spanking so I tried to make sure she was taken care of after. Anyway I think overall it was a good experience for us so I am glad I tried it.


  1. Hi Es May, the dowel looks ouchy and the paint stirrer very looong lol.

    I'm sorrow your little girl has been sick with tonsillitis and hope she is getting better. It's worrying and not easy when young ones are unwell.

    I'm glad the Duke was able to put things back to rights.


  2. Awww EsMay...I do understand how lack of sleep can make you forget things. Be assured that missing those two is not going to permanently harm her but also understand just how guilty you felt for missing them. The punishment Duke gave you helped you both...he was stepping up to protect his family and you were able to let go of your guilt. When I was taking care of my mother, it was easy to get all her medication confused so I made a chart and checked off each med each day. You could do the same thing for your daughter...would help you ensure you don't forget.

    Good gravy...have never seen a paint stirrer that long! I get mine at Walmart and they are about a foot long. Try to find one for a 1 gallon bucket, not a 5 gallon! LOL

    Sending prayers and healing energy for your little one.

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

  3. Aaawww, I'm sorry to hear that your little girl has been sick. I do hope she's on the mend very soon and that you can get the sleep you need too. It sounds like the spanking and care afterward was a good thing, cleansing away any guilt and letting you know he cares. How did you find the dowel? I would imagine it would be a bit like a cane. Was it quiet enough? I know that for me, the quiet implements usually make it harder for me to stay quiet! (((hugs)))

  4. Sorry to hear your little one is so prone to ear infections, hope she outgrows them soon. That is quite a collection, but I would add a nice not too stiff leather paddle...yummy! That is the longest paint stick I have ever seen.
    Congrats to Duke for sensing that a spanking would help and for all the wonderful rubbing and chatting over His lap, that is a big part for me.
    hugs abby

  5. I'm sorry that baby girl is sick. We are fighting something on this end with little monkey as well. Seems to take forever to get them healthy again and 1 tiny thing & you start over.

    As for the dowel, I hope that wasn't my suggestion LOL. Those things are nasty and Fonzi has 2. Full length tho and each as horrible as the other. Glad you're getting what you need for the head space.



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