Monday, May 05, 2014


I was nominated by three fine ladies for the Liebster Award.  Thank you for nominating me.  If someone else nominated me, and I didn't see, I am terribly sorry.  Right now, I have been put on a tight blogging restriction.  I need to cut back the amount of things I do, and my stress levels.  So for now, the Duke has let me know that I will only be reading blogs if I am specifically asked by a blog author to check out a certain post.  And even then, he may say no.  So the only rrason I even knew about these nominations was because they wrote and let !e know.  I have not let people know this yet except a quick mention of it in chat one night, because I feel incredibly guilty keeping my blog going when I cannot keep up with all of yours.  I hope you can forgive me.  I would stop blogging, but both of us agree that I need this outlet.

So for the Award, I have been told it has basically died down around blogland, so I won't put up the rules, but I did want to answer back for these fine ladies.  I wrote my answers to each.  Because I did three sets of answers, I did not do the little known facts about myself, figuring, you'd get lots in these answers alone.  And since it has basically died out already, I did not nominate anyone.  But if you did not get a nomination, consider yourself nominated by me and pick any of the questions you see here for your blog. :)

1. What kind of music do you listen to in the car? And do you sing along?
Contemporary Christian music usually, and yes, if I know the words to a song, I sing along, can’t seem to stop myself. :(
2. Do you have an item of clothing that you love but your spouse/family hates?
No, the Duke doesn’t really hate anything, or if he does, he hasn’t told me. ;)
3. Favorite season?
4. Favorite movie?
Hmmm, no favourite, but love BBC type Period Pieces, like Jane Austin, Elizabeth Gaskell, Charles Dickens.  But don’t get me wrong, I still love comedies, and Marvel Comic movies, and kids movies at times. :)
5. Strangest food you ever tried?
6. Least favorite chore about the house?
Cleaning the toilet
7. Do you have a hobby?
Knitting, some crochet, some scrapbooking, reading, writing, blogging, video games, movies
8. Favorite guilty pleasure?
9. Favorite vacation destination?
Hope to go to Italy someday! :)
10. Favorite thing to eat?
OH, what day of the week is it? Lol Pizza, sweet potatoes, chocolate, poutine, donairs, garlic fingers, chicken, yeah, probably Chicken! :)
11. What song takes you right back to high school?
Anything by the Spin Doctors, lol.

1) What are your most liked and least liked implements and why?
We tend to only use the paddle now.  So I don’t know that I like or don’t like them, they do get the job done. ;)
2) If you had to describe the difference DD has made in your marriage in only one sentence, what would you say?
I know I matter now.
3) Have you ever been watching a couple on TV or in real life and found yourself thinking "I would definitely get spanked for that."?
Hmmm, I don’t believe I have… I’ll have to watch for that now. ;)
4) If you could be HoH for a day, what rules would you make?
I get to spank, and he DOESN’T!  lol, but then, I couldn’t spank him, would just be wrong, lol
5) What has been the biggest area of growth you've saw in your HoH?
His belief in himself to do this, and other things in his life.  He’s grown so much.
6) If you could have any animal in the world as a pet with no restrictions, what would it be?
GIRAFFE!!!!  Er, Giraffe. :)
7) What are some of your hobbies?
Woops, answered this above. ;)
8) If someone wrote a biography about you, what would the title be?
The Life Of The Boring And More Bored. ;)
9) Can you whistle?
Yep.  The Duke?  Nope. ;)
10) Are you right or left handed?
Right more so, but quite ambidextrous as well.
11) If money was no object, what would be your dream home and where would it be?
Ah… sigh… a four bedroom, two bathroom, big back yard, in ground pool.  A hundred feet off the ocean where I could walk out onto grass in my front yard, and sand in my backyard. :)  Still would live in Canada though. :)

1. If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?
Chicken. :)
2. What is the part of your body you find most attractive?
My nose.
3. What is your favorite movie genre?
Period Piece Dramas, usually in romantic nature.
4. If you were offered the job of leader of your country, would you take it? Why/why not?
Depends on the advice team I could have with me.  But honestly, probably not.  I would find myself overwhelmed with making decisions when I’m actually trying to give up making decisions.
5. If you had to pick a motto or tagline for your life, what would it be?
Trust me, I’m a work in progress. ;)
6. Do you believe in magic or supernatural phenomena?
I believe in God.  I do know that magic and the supernatural outside of that are real as well, but they are not for me.  I hope I do not offend anyone in that.
7. If you were an animal, what would you be?
A cat.  Get fed, get petted, get my poop cleaned up for me.  What’s there to complain about? ;)
8. What is your favorite indulgence?
Hmmm, I really don’t know.
9. What do you value most about your partner? If you are unattached, what would you look for in a potential partner?
His willingness to find out what our needs are together, and really go for them.  And I would look for someone that could be humble and in charge at the same time.  A man that could lead while being able to admit when he is hurt or in need of help.  A man that looks to love, comfort, be there, be delicate when need be, and who loves God above all else.
10. Do you eat dinner at the table with your family?
Um, no, lol.  We will when we have a family, but for now, we eat in the living room, or at times in the bedroom.
11. Is there anything you wish more people knew about you?
That I really don’t have it altogether, but I will try to be very honest about who I am.  I don’t long to impress, or be popular, or know all the answers.  I long to be okay with who I am, and have the Duke okay with that as well.  Sometimes in that I come across as stuck up… but I’m really not.  I’m no better than anyone else, in fact, I often feel below people, and very unsure of myself, something I am working on.

1.If you could go anywhere in the world where would it be?
Definitely Italy! :)
2. If you could meet anyone on blogland who would it be and why?
I am always afraid of hurting people's feelings with ones like this... but I'll pick the first four, as there are many I would like to meet. :)  Cali Mom, June, Roz and JGirl.  They have all reached out to me in very special ways, and I have learned so much from each of them, in different ways.  I would not be were I am with DD D/s today if it weren't for them.
3. Favorite implement to use or receive?
Hmmm, guess that would be the paddles, as that's all the Duke uses now.  ;)
4. Would you trade places with your significant other for 24 hours? (I.e. your Dom and she's Sub, you do the opposite for a day all rules included)
SURE!  Well, as long as I didn't have to spank him, lol.  That, I could NOT handle.  But the rest, might be nice being in charge for a day, but only a day.  I wouldn't want it long term.
5. What made you realize this lifestyle was for you?
I've always wanted it, just didn't realize there was a name for what I wanted.  The day I knew there was, I felt so much relief that I wasn't alone.
6. Favorite kink?
Hmmm, not sure I'm ready to share that yet... sorry, feels a little too intimate to share, hope that's okay.
7. Exhibitionist, yes or no?
Not even close.  If I even think someone will hear our bed creaking in another apartment I can't do it...
8. Craziest place you've ever had sex?
In-laws while they were just down the hall, I know, a bit odd after my last answer.
9. Favorite spanking position giving or receiving?
Love, LOVE being over the Duke's lap, I feel so safe there.
10. If you could meet anyone from history who would it be?
OH!  Oh my, that's hard.  Moses, the Disciple Simon Peter, Hana - Samuel's mother, non Biblical I'd like to meet Jane Austen, and ask her about writing, and her understanding of people.
11. Favorite sex position?
Hmmm, sorry, have to pass. :)  Always promised after advice in premarital counselling that we would not share about detailed things in our intimacy, hope that's okay. :)


  1. Thanks for sharing these interesting facts and tidbits about yourself. Unfortunately for me life's issues have raised their ugly heads and I have not responded to te award invite from Meredith yet. If Duke allows, wonder if you would read my post from tonight and let me know your thoughts. I have noted everyone is cutting back on blogging including myself. I enjoy seeing you pop up from time to time.

    1. Life gets busy for us all, I know she'll understand. :). And glad,the Duke,okayed me reading that post. :)

  2. Thanks for answering my questions. It's always nice to get to know a little about my fellow bloggers.

    1. You are welcome. :). It is nice to learn more about each other. :)

  3. Hey reading more about my friends here in blogland! Hope you can come visit my blog every once in a while if you need a giggle or a recipe. ;) Thanks for sharing...oh and please say 'hi' to the Duke from me.

    Hugs and Blessings...

    1. Thank you, Cat. I hope I can. :) And I'll be sure to say hi. :)

  4. Great answers... I guess we know which blogs you read lol ... I too nominated you .. I think your pretty popular ! It's hard to keep up , keep writing your blogs :) ~ s

    1. Actually, I can't read any blogs at the moment unless the blog author writes me and asks me to read, and then the Duke has to say I can. It probably seems controlling, but that isn't his goal. Right now he wants me to relax, and is helping me cut things out just for the time being. I added your questions in. Thank you for the nomination. :)

  5. Hi EsMsy, please don't feel bad about not reading and commenting. It is hard to keep up, not to mention time consuming and I think we all need to take a step back from time to time. Nothing much happening on my blog at the moment thanks to not having a computer at the moment and using a tablet instead :(

    I enjoyed reading your answers and learning a little more about you. A giraffe huh? Interesting choice lol. I am soo with you on chocolate! Loved your answer to Dana's second question :)


    1. Thank you for your understanding of my break away. {{{hugs}}}. And glad you liked my answers. Yes, definitely a giraffe! :). Hehe. I just love them, they are so beautiful. :)

  6. EsMay, I am sorry that you have this restriction, but it is so much more important that you are doing fine. I think it is lovely that the Duke pays so close attention. And if blogging creates negative effects, like stress, then it is very important to have such a restriction … and a very caring HoH who imposes it with your well-being in mind. Nevertheless, I am glad that you don’t have to stop blogging completely, because your blog entries have always been great and thoughtful posts and I hope you can write more, without any pressure or adding to stress.



    1. Oh Nina, thank you. I have been so worried about keeping my blog yet not being able to visit others'. Thank you for your kind words.

  7. Hi EsMay,
    Thanks for your answers, is always nice to learn more about fellow bloggers. I hope you don't give up blogging just because you can't read other blogs right now. If it helps you, and if the Duke allows, post to your hearts content. While I will miss your comments, I certainly would never hold it against you that you are only posting and not reading, and I'm sure most others feel that way too. Hopefully in time you will be able to more freely travel the blogiverse, but no one can tell the future. Trust in the Duke and keep communicating with him, and above all, love yourself and be happy :-)

    1. You guys are so good to me. Thank you. When I am able to, I'll be sure to check back in. :) And I promise to do my best to keep communicating with the Duke. :)

  8. Loved reading all your answers and hope things calm down for you. Be good to yourself.

    1. Thank you, and I will try to be good to myself. :)

  9. Hi Es May!
    Hey...bossy old blogger lady here--you and your husband ARE a family, with or without children. Clear off that table and try having dinner together there a few times a week. You might really be surprised at how much you like it. Bossy lady going away now...:)

    1. Thank you, Susie. :) In all actuality, the only spot for a table is in a weird part of our apartment, and it's really tight in there. It just makes eating there awkward, but I'll talk to the Duke, see how he feels about us eating in there from time to time. :) We do eat together when we eat, just not at the table. ;) And thank you for the bossing, let's me know you care. :)

  10. Thanks for answering ... I love #1! Someday I'm going there I swear lol ... Totally respect your choices not to indulge your bedroom answeres ❤️..

    1. Glad you liked. :) And thank you for understanding my not sharing some answers. :)


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