tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post5199788170788358382..comments2023-06-13T11:57:48.024-03:00Comments on Submitting To Be Led: Playing And Two More RulesUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-59350217943830380732013-05-02T18:56:35.321-03:002013-05-02T18:56:35.321-03:00Thank you for the hugs, Mixie. :)Thank you for the hugs, Mixie. :)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-80301030843716101612013-04-27T22:59:19.038-03:002013-04-27T22:59:19.038-03:00Oh, Es May! Hugs to you!!! *HUGGGGGG* on so many l...Oh, Es May! Hugs to you!!! *HUGGGGGG* on so many levels I can relate to your story and your heart. <3Mixiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17074485599675377693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-57402136658426461812013-04-25T08:06:47.010-03:002013-04-25T08:06:47.010-03:00Nice to meet you, Cole. :) You almost made me cry...Nice to meet you, Cole. :) You almost made me cry. "You are the wonderful you your husband fell in love with". Thank you for those words. They really touched me. You're right, tough to learn, but if I can do it, I really feel this will be so good for me, for us.Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-56434150808593332542013-04-25T08:05:11.406-03:002013-04-25T08:05:11.406-03:00The good moments are DEFINITELY starting to outwei...The good moments are DEFINITELY starting to outweigh the hard ones. :) And thank goodness they don't have to be serious all the time, eh? Or else why would we want this? ;)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-70861947647516049822013-04-25T07:56:11.544-03:002013-04-25T07:56:11.544-03:00Oh the fun side of DD is awesome...it doesn't ...Oh the fun side of DD is awesome...it doesn't have to be so serious all the time! Susiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00511114118020790717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-15987058466108900142013-04-25T01:05:23.628-03:002013-04-25T01:05:23.628-03:00Hugs! Playfulness is so fun and important! Keeping...Hugs! Playfulness is so fun and important! Keeping that alive has been a major goal of mine in our dd relationship. The rules are good..I grew up with a mom like that and it was rough...you are not that person. You are the wonderful you your husband fell in love with...believe him...trust him...that's what this is about, right? Tough lessons to learn, but oh so important...Colehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14094102802633154552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-11264014165627903662013-04-24T23:13:05.015-03:002013-04-24T23:13:05.015-03:00TL, that is just beautiful, that I might catch a g...TL, that is just beautiful, that I might catch a glimpse of the woman he sees. And yes, it's ahem... sexy. LOL We have just been having so much fun! I feel so connected to him right now. I am so blessed. :) You know, I think the more they honestly tell us how much they love us, and how much value they see in us, and keep delighting in us, I hope that is when it will be much easier to believe our true worth to them. :)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-17810691695659163652013-04-24T23:09:30.433-03:002013-04-24T23:09:30.433-03:00First of all, playful DD is the bestest thing in t...First of all, playful DD is the bestest thing in the entire world. I love when Bucko is all playful and bossy. So sexy...ahem! I digress. I'm so happy that you two have discovered this fun part of DD. It warms my heart to see you in such a good place.<br /><br />Secondly, I struggle with the same things you do. I wish I could see myself the way Bucko sees me, but I just can't. One thing I have found since starting TTWD is that I'm more willing to try. You may not always see it, but try. There will be moments where you catch a glimpse of the woman he sees, and I promise you the view is awesome. Keep up the great work.<br /><br />Love and hugs,<br />TLAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01585822635428776570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-23935633112396720822013-04-24T23:09:08.149-03:002013-04-24T23:09:08.149-03:00It is so nice, I am glad that the same is happenin...It is so nice, I am glad that the same is happening fo ryou and Steve. :) Uh oh, I think you're soon going to have the rule I have. I really think it will be good for me in the long run... but I see a lot of tears in the making until then. I hope your ride is easier. {{{HUGS}}}Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-29655661246465930532013-04-24T23:05:29.938-03:002013-04-24T23:05:29.938-03:00LOL I wondered if anyone was going to comment on ...LOL I wondered if anyone was going to comment on that! :) Well, if you see one, I'm willing to pay. ;)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-14254411663517263132013-04-24T23:04:47.951-03:002013-04-24T23:04:47.951-03:00Oh, I plan to be very realistic. LOL I try to be...Oh, I plan to be very realistic. LOL I try to be now... but I guess I have to tone it down a bit and be willing to see his side of realistic too. Yes, he is getting better and better at saving me from myself... sometimes I have to tell myself I do love this. lolEs Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-17983891137815964982013-04-24T23:02:53.817-03:002013-04-24T23:02:53.817-03:00Thank you, Mischief. I think you're right. I...Thank you, Mischief. I think you're right. I do think part of it is facing the fact that I was lied to, and my true value beaten into the dust. It hurts to hear how wrong my mom was because it defined who I was. Having to redefine who I am to myself, making myself feel value when I'm used to not being valued... it's hard. It almost hurts to be important. So not fair. :( But I am glad the Duke is here to help me. :)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-10734039040615755322013-04-24T22:20:47.560-03:002013-04-24T22:20:47.560-03:00I've noticed that Steve and I are a lot more p...I've noticed that Steve and I are a lot more playful these days than we were prior to DD. I guess it's because we're a lot closer and definitely more comfortable with each other. It's nice though.<br /><br />I get down on myself sometimes too. Steve used to not say much about it, but he's been getting after me lately if he hears me talking about myself in a negative way.Danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09466617466439016915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-56290613100127941632013-04-24T17:58:11.623-03:002013-04-24T17:58:11.623-03:00Sorry all of the anchors seemed to have disappeare...Sorry all of the anchors seemed to have disappeared. :-) Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-13639876435108143662013-04-24T15:50:02.876-03:002013-04-24T15:50:02.876-03:00Dearest Es May,
Big {{{HUGS}}} from me - I think ...Dearest Es May,<br /><br />Big {{{HUGS}}} from me - I think there are probably a lot of us who are constantly trying to overcome a negative self-image; especially when it got deeply ingrained into us from childhood, (and from our mothers who are supposed to be the ones to love and support us unconditionally). Those roots are deep, and they don't get destroyed overnight, but thank God for our sweet husbands who see beyond that and love us enough to fight us on it! <br /><br />And it's true that when we put ourselves down we are hurting/insulting our dear husbands. That's what finally got me to stop me badmouthing myself and even negative thinking about myself. My husband now helps me to be more of a realist in that I can say "I really want to lose weight as I would feel so much more comfortable with myself" but he wouldn't love me any more if I did or any less if I didn't - just as I don't love him any more or less as his looks change over the years (28 years of marriage, there's bound to be some changes, lol!) If I can love him that way, why wouldn't I believe that he could love me that same way? <br /><br />I'm glad you have The Duke who can give you the extra TLC you need, but also does not let you get away with doing anything that would be harmful to yourself. <3 Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-86317220972584734632013-04-24T13:41:24.210-03:002013-04-24T13:41:24.210-03:00It hurts to be of value now I think because you we...It hurts to be of value now I think because you weren't of value then. Well you were a beautiful and awesome person then but your mom didn't recognize it. It is especially hard when one or both parent's don't recognize it because they are the ones who are supposed to. I do understand because I had and still have sometimes such moments with Tm telling me the opposite of what I heard growing up. I am happy you have the Duke who seems to value your greatness :)Mischiefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15206940756218059735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-46333337589063587752013-04-24T11:17:04.236-03:002013-04-24T11:17:04.236-03:00Oh, you are called Little One too, that's kind...Oh, you are called Little One too, that's kind of cool. I don't have to feel so childish about it then. *BLUSH* I think part of my hard time with it was that I did like it... but I had wanted that name as a child, and it was weird hearing it as a grown up, it also brought back the hard feelings of the longings I had.<br /><br />I will have to ask the Duke if it actually hurts him to hear me talk down about myself... that would really shape me up fast. The further we go into DD, the more it really hurts me to hurt him.<br /><br />Aw, you could do the swearing rule... your butt would only be as sore as mine is going to be over putting myself down! ;) {{{HUGS}}} back. :)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-66594892813272133652013-04-24T11:12:38.215-03:002013-04-24T11:12:38.215-03:00Hi Es May,
Firstly, I'm glad you are enjoying...Hi Es May,<br /><br />Firstly, I'm glad you are enjoying the fun side of Dd. I love the banter and playfulness. Rick calls me his little one too and I love it :) <br /><br />I too am glad you woke up happy and feeling loved. You have an amazing husband there who loves you very much :)<br /><br />I'm sorry, but I'm with the Duke on this one too :) Negative self talk seems to be an issue with most HoH's. It can be self damaging and part of their job is to protect us and sometimes that means protecting us from ourselves. I also agree with the others that the Duke wants you to see yourself how he sees you. Rick has told me several times that he does not see any of the negative stuff that I do and that it hurts him to hear me make these comments.<br /><br />As for the swearing .. well, I think that one could be a little tough for me *blush*<br /><br />((Hugs))<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-19497745258071473392013-04-24T11:11:03.966-03:002013-04-24T11:11:03.966-03:00See, Sarah, you make is sooooo tempting to tell hi...See, Sarah, you make is sooooo tempting to tell him now! Hehehehe, I won't! :) You know... what he said about throwing away the compliment... that is something I have to remember... I think I'll even tell it to the Duke so that he can remind me of what I'm actually doing when I do do this. The more I think on it today... and see the love he was showing in making these rules, how his goal in these is to protect me, it does make me start to like the new rules. we'll see how much though the next time I'm otk for them! *GULP* lolEs Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-77254755340761879512013-04-24T11:05:02.393-03:002013-04-24T11:05:02.393-03:00It's so hard to view ourselves as our husbands...It's so hard to view ourselves as our husbands see us. One time, He-Man gave me a compliment and I completely disregarded it - basically telling him he was blind and didn't know what he was talking about. Like you, I have eyes and a mirror. I can see what I look like! He looked at me, with a look somewhere between sad, confused and hurt and said, "Why would you throw something I give you away?" I shook my head at him because I wasn't sure what he was getting at. Then he said, "You just threw away my compliment." I haven't done it again. When he compliments me, I accept it with a smile and a 'thank you' whether I believe him or not.<br />I like these new rules of yours. Eventually, you will too. I'd probably fail miserably at them (especially the swearing) but I'm confident you'll do just fine. :) <br />PS Let's hope He-Man doesn't hear word of your new rules - wouldn't want to give him any ideas, lol...Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04798113123590131798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-71895052078493213542013-04-24T10:48:11.269-03:002013-04-24T10:48:11.269-03:00Yes, Kenzie, wooden spoons, especially the old hea...Yes, Kenzie, wooden spoons, especially the old heavy type with a small hitting surface, are just cruel! ;) I think everyone is going to agree with the Duke on this one... hmmm, he's lucky I love him and don't get jealous of him. :) I am glad it shows through how much he loves me... I guess I didn't realize how much until you all started commenting. Thank you so much. :)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-30923453334743554242013-04-24T10:10:14.624-03:002013-04-24T10:10:14.624-03:00Im with him on this one! As cliche as it sounds y...Im with him on this one! As cliche as it sounds you have to be able to love yourself and he wants you to see you as he sees you. Easier said than done, I know, becsuse I can be the same way with the negative comments towards myself, but I think its wonderful that thats a new rule!<br /><br />I also think its great that you woke up feeling loved, because its clear from this post how much he loves you. :)<br /><br />Wooden spoons are evil though arent they? Ouch!Kenziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16300931055285711554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-79137325452118054202013-04-24T08:40:07.995-03:002013-04-24T08:40:07.995-03:00Here's hoping he doesn't let anyone else t...Here's hoping he doesn't let anyone else talk bad about me! ;) I know, I loved the protectiveness too, now that I've had a chance to think about it, I didn't know he had it in him. *blush* :) And thank you, Tess, I hope they new rules go well too, or my bottom will definitely be sore for a while. *gulp*Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-67299896631043052432013-04-24T08:38:19.772-03:002013-04-24T08:38:19.772-03:00Great, Thanks Missy! I'll remember that. ;) ...Great, Thanks Missy! I'll remember that. ;) Hehehe. Okay, so maybe I do deserve a butt roasting, but it's going to be so hard... emotionally that is. And thank you for the compliment. I read the line to the Duke about "you should get that bum of yours spanked and spanked hard", he laughed. <br /><br />And I think he does love me to bits. If you'd asked me a few months ago, I still would have said he didn't notice me or care... now... WOW! :)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-82835656711827114272013-04-24T08:35:59.769-03:002013-04-24T08:35:59.769-03:00Callie, thank you... I needed that put into perspe...Callie, thank you... I needed that put into perspective. I guess in judging myself, I am putting him down and accusing him of not being honest with me... Thank you for that, I needed that.Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.com