tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post4096582412066895796..comments2023-06-13T11:57:48.024-03:00Comments on Submitting To Be Led: What I've Learned This Year - Part 2 - Room To GrowUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-87766316500813175982019-01-21T12:52:00.159-04:002019-01-21T12:52:00.159-04:00Hello, Desiree, I didn't realize you had comme...Hello, Desiree, I didn't realize you had commented, so I'm sorry these comments on old posts sat here over a week. :) I have to admit, I love learning people go back and read the earlier posts. :) Feels special somehow. :) <br /><br />You are right, how I was doing things was not letting him lead at all. I had to step back, and I am so glad I did. Every once in a while I have to do the encouraging thing again, though I try to encourage often, but once in a while he needs more, but it's less often, and less severe. :) He really has grown in his ability to lead, but his confidence as well, and not just in our marriage, but through his whole life, in the every day things. :) <br /><br />It would be hard to have a husband as you said yours was. If the Duke was selfish, I mean he'll have the occasional selfish thought with a wicked grin on his face, lol, but on the whole, he's not selfish in DD, and I'd find it hard to do if he was. Though, in saying that, I realize, the Duke can be quite selfish outside of DD, and that is one reason our marriage needs it. He gets completely caught up in his own world, and literally, I'm ignored. So DD helped that aspect. But trust, yes, trust is so needed. We're giving ourselves, learning to be vulnerable, opening up like never before, and we can't do that without having someone we can trust, even if we wanted to. I know it hurt, but I think it's wise to know who we can trust to do this with, and who we can't.<br />EsMayEsMayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06331562552269848546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-84742419206853174412019-01-12T09:18:48.325-04:002019-01-12T09:18:48.325-04:00EsMay, This post really resonated with me. I think...EsMay, This post really resonated with me. I think when I was married, I got scared because of our culture and I really did not trust my husband. I didn't trust his motives or his ability to love unselfishly. Our marriage eventually ended but I always wanted this type of marriage. I love that you address the emotional aspects of trying to get them to lead the way we want them to and approve. But you are so right when you say this is not leading at all. And you can't have it both ways. This, I have worked out for myself. I love your blog. Thank you for sharing. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-34294393134696161112013-12-06T17:22:42.728-04:002013-12-06T17:22:42.728-04:00THank you, Kenzie. :) It is nice, I was going bac...THank you, Kenzie. :) It is nice, I was going back through some old posts, I can't believe the change in a year's time.Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-11181053037619678842013-12-06T17:21:48.146-04:002013-12-06T17:21:48.146-04:00Thank you so much, Katie. I do try to do this oft...Thank you so much, Katie. I do try to do this often, but it is something I realize I will have to keep an eye out for, sometimes he can get insecure... and I have to remember that in those times, it's my turn to give back to him. {{{hugs}}}Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-18114464487117883072013-12-06T17:19:17.366-04:002013-12-06T17:19:17.366-04:00Thank you, Dana. And me too, I have needed blogla...Thank you, Dana. And me too, I have needed blogland to get through this year, and it's great to have you all here with me.Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-45436527339320290132013-12-06T17:17:51.841-04:002013-12-06T17:17:51.841-04:00OH Elle, I KNOW! It drives me nuts... I don't...OH Elle, I KNOW! It drives me nuts... I don't want him to ever bow to me like that. :( I'm glad he's learning how serious I am about that. :) {{{hugs}}}Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-29794762624728850782013-12-06T17:16:39.383-04:002013-12-06T17:16:39.383-04:00Sadie, it is so nice to meet you. :) I am glad yo...Sadie, it is so nice to meet you. :) I am glad you found me, I can always use another friend. {{{hugs}}} And thank you for liking my layout... some people can probably tell you how obsessed I was with its perfection in the early stages... *blush* I just wanted it to reflect who I was so much, so as I change, it tends to make changes too, lol.Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-52491817167947361272013-12-06T17:15:14.457-04:002013-12-06T17:15:14.457-04:00Hey Meredith... I was going to say I don't kno...Hey Meredith... I was going to say I don't know that you'd call it successful, but when I look at how strong we are now... I guess in a way we are. I know we still have a long way to go, we both have so much to learn, but we're getting there, day by day.Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-60871489541991640322013-12-06T17:14:04.514-04:002013-12-06T17:14:04.514-04:00Thank you, Sara, it has been nice to see him grow....Thank you, Sara, it has been nice to see him grow. :) {{{hugs}}}Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-29575384068828536622013-12-06T17:13:29.297-04:002013-12-06T17:13:29.297-04:00Callie, thank you so much, I'm glad you like i...Callie, thank you so much, I'm glad you like it. I was afraid to share, but so far the response from everyone has been great. Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-82606896853451367122013-12-06T17:12:42.389-04:002013-12-06T17:12:42.389-04:00Hey Janey, no worries, a lot of my comments have b...Hey Janey, no worries, a lot of my comments have been disappearing as well. :( And I so understand, even though we have taken great steps in some areas, there are still times I expect him to act a certain way, and then he floors me. I think they like to do that. ;)Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-25107343749356678092013-12-06T17:10:37.990-04:002013-12-06T17:10:37.990-04:00Thank you, Cat, wow, you make me feel all good ins...Thank you, Cat, wow, you make me feel all good inside. :) Thank you. {{{hugs}}} I don't know about an example, I still struggle in so many areas, but I am glad I can share what I have learned that has helped.Es Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862166523815621955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-43307588109727080662013-12-06T16:29:00.012-04:002013-12-06T16:29:00.012-04:00What a great post. You two have come soo far, it&#...What a great post. You two have come soo far, it's so nice to be able to reflect and look back at it all. :)Kenziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16300931055285711554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-76164203257068299232013-12-05T22:51:54.360-04:002013-12-05T22:51:54.360-04:00This is such a great post, Es May!!! I think that...This is such a great post, Es May!!! I think that is so true- we have to let them grow in their way, as HoH/gain confidence. You have done that, which truly requires patience, perseverance and so much more. I think that the rewards are wonderful! Good for you both!!! Many hugs,<br /><br /><3 KatieKatiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09502903951761571578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-6509270651340388472013-12-05T20:27:04.593-04:002013-12-05T20:27:04.593-04:00Awesome post EsMay.. I am so glad we are in this t...Awesome post EsMay.. I am so glad we are in this togetherDanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13148756931282483079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-78539378313933679462013-12-05T18:25:37.092-04:002013-12-05T18:25:37.092-04:00Great post!!!!
I hate that stereotypical "ye...Great post!!!! <br />I hate that stereotypical "yes dear" thing. I want to be as far from that as possible, you know??!! <br />Hugs, <br />Elle elle :)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15832857681848198913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-66133364098000435632013-12-05T14:12:27.223-04:002013-12-05T14:12:27.223-04:00This is a great post, Es May. I've been navig...This is a great post, Es May. I've been navigating my way around blogland and just now found you. I'm looking forward to reading more :)<br /><br />Love the layout, btw!<br /><br />SadieSadiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13515398597364090414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-29943746020272647832013-12-05T11:17:37.571-04:002013-12-05T11:17:37.571-04:00Thank you for sharing your successful journey.
Mer...Thank you for sharing your successful journey.<br />MeredithAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-84995686513238018102013-12-05T09:29:45.141-04:002013-12-05T09:29:45.141-04:00This is wonderful to read Es May. I loved hearing ...This is wonderful to read Es May. I loved hearing about how the Duke has grown<br />in confidence. Glad everything is going well.<br /><br />hugs<br />saraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-50144506732616186132013-12-05T06:55:21.895-04:002013-12-05T06:55:21.895-04:00I'm loving this series from you :) You've ...I'm loving this series from you :) You've got some really interesting points about things you've learned over the last year. Thanks for sharing!<br /><br />CallieCalliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08722173496181331492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-53305501983145486062013-12-05T02:57:06.946-04:002013-12-05T02:57:06.946-04:00Hello EsMay
I'm sorry I thought I'd commen...Hello EsMay<br />I'm sorry I thought I'd commented on your last post, but hadn't!<br />Yes to the saying one thing with my mouth and another thing with how I've reacted (fought) with my body and yes too to imagining he would/should lead or act in a particular way and telling him he is wrong when he doesn't. (I really wish I could have written this in the past tense but its not totally in the past, it still happens at times!)<br />Well done with all you have both recognised, learned and communicated.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879991995070741632.post-39933414973980902172013-12-05T00:22:46.683-04:002013-12-05T00:22:46.683-04:00Sitting here with a big smile on my face Es May! ...Sitting here with a big smile on my face Es May! You and the Duke have come so far and you get it...you really get it! So very proud of you both...you are a shining example for others in our community. :D<br /><br />Hugs and Blessings...<br />CatCathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14266606975978680188noreply@blogger.com