Wednesday, February 14, 2018

Never Read or Saw 50 Shades of Grey

I have written posts, and deleted posts over the past month.  Not really sure what to write about because there isn't much going on.  We've all been sick.  Things are growing in our marriage again though.  The Duke is stepping up more, I'm giving in more.  I've had more spankings lately, all quick, and all to remind me he is in charge.  Only a couple a week, still way more than I was getting before.  I have a few rules being enforced right now because of health, and so far, I haven't had to be punished because of them.... lol, we'll see how long that lasts! :)

So I don't really have any great insights to share.  But I do have a question.  I have heard such mixed reviews about the Shades of Grey trilogy, and I wanted to see if anyone had read the books, or seen the movies?

From a DD or D/s point of view, what are your thoughts?  Part of me wants to check it all out, and part of me hears people talking about there being no consent, and so I would not be okay with that at all.  But maybe these are the same people who think there is no consent in DD.  Would love to hear your opinions, without stepping on anyone else's opinions.
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  1. Lea2/14/2018 7:21 pm

    I have read all the books and saw the first two movies. The books are... annoying, for lack of a better term. They're not well written. And it doesn't accurately portray D/s in my opinion. But its meant to be fantasy.

    I can see the appeal in them, especially for those not versed in BDSM at all. But I have conflicting feelings on this being how so many people are being introduced to the lifestyle. More people is good, more understanding, more acceptance. But it's a very skewed non-idealistic relationship, and its tough for me to think that folks believe this is what most do.

    The movies are a little better. There are contracts, but the problem is the guy doesn't stick to them. If he wasn't a good looking millionaire and this wasn't a sexy story, he'd be a scary abusive stalker asshole.

    I still think its worth a watch, but I wouldn't go to the theatre for it. This is a rare case of I'd watch the movie first and see how I feel about before thinking about the books.

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    1. EsMay2/15/2018 1:28 pm

      That is good to keep in mind. I am debating on reading them, and or watching them, just to see what the hype is. I wasn't interested in them at all, but all the sudden this week I see them popping up everywhere, and wondered if I should give them a shot. I think it's funny that after I wrote this, I noticed it pop up on Netflix, well the first one I think it is. So I may give it a go with the Duke this weekend. We'll see.

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  2. abby2/14/2018 9:48 pm

    I agree with Lea...I read all three books, out of curiosity....they are not a hand book for how most do things. I say the first 2 movies, M and I rented them..it was a great idea since we could 'play along'....our way. I have heard that the third movie has more romance and is more of a love story..will watch it when it is out on DVD.
    hugs abby

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    1. EsMay2/15/2018 1:28 pm

      Hehehe, play along, huh? I'll have to watch and see if I can figure out a way for us to play along. :)

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  3. Roz2/15/2018 4:31 am

    Hi Es May, sorry to hear you have all been sick and hope everyone is doing much better. So glad to hear you and the Duke are doing well and growing.

    I agree with Lea and Abby. I read all three books and quite enjoyed them for what they are, a titillating story. Definitely not literary masterpieces or a realistic view of D/s. I have only seen the first movie.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. EsMay2/15/2018 1:29 pm

      Thank you, Roz. We're on the mend. I think if the Duke could get himself to bed at a decent hour, he might lick his too. :P

      Thank you for your opinion, with everyone's opinions today I'm more open to the idea than I ever thought I would be.

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  4. Anonymous2/15/2018 8:51 am

    Hi Esmay

    She sort of does 'consent' in the books. In the books she has an alter ego in her mind that loves his dominance, and she accepts his belt once then tells him never again. He complies. I have seen the first movie and it leaves out a lot of her thoughts that might have the viewer confused on her willingness.

    Neither the books nor the movies are great as far as D/s goes- but they are only meant to be entertainment. Everything is exaggerated for that reason.

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    1. EsMay2/15/2018 1:31 pm

      Anonymous, that is a great thing to keep in mind, that it's exaggerated as a means of entertainment. I hope others learning about some of this stuff will realize that.

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  5. an English Rose2/15/2018 11:09 am

    Hi Esmay, I have read all three and seen the first two films. I will go and see the last one as soon as grandbaby has gone home!I loved them, I don't care how well they are written, let's face we all have read books that are total drivel and enjoyed them. You go girl, enjoy.
    love Jan, xx

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    1. EsMay2/15/2018 1:32 pm

      LOL, I am not sure I can admit to enjoying total drivel... *whistling innocently* lol. Thank you, I think I will give them a shot. Well, I can't afford the books right now, but I will take a look at the first movie as I noticed since writing that it's come on Netflix. :)

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  6. Lindy Thomas2/23/2018 5:13 am

    Hi Esmay, I've read the books and loved it. saw the first movie which I hated and just saw the latest movie. It was good but leaves so much out.
    I'd say go for it and form your own opinion.
    Hugs Lindy xx

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    1. EsMay2/23/2018 7:50 am

      I am seriously looking at the books. :) I finally watched the movie and loved it, but with how long I hear the books are, I can see how it really would leave a lot out. So I think I'll see the movie first each time and then read the book so that I don't set expectations for the movie and can enjoy it on it's own. :)

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    2. Lindy Thomas2/24/2018 1:18 am

      That's probably best. As I was disappointed with the movies after reading the books. Enjoy!

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    3. EsMay2/24/2018 8:15 am

      I have rarely read a book before a movie, and understand your frustration. I am not sure I have ever liked a movie when reading the book first. But if I can watch the movie first, I find I can find reasons to like both. :) It's horrible how film writers can take a story and totally twist and destroy it. Makes you wonder why they do that when the reason so many people go out to see it is to see the story they fell in love with come to life.

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