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We had to take down all our posts for a while. We did not realize that to put them back up would repost them in everyone's feeds. We apologize for that. We also will do our best, as life allows, to get the rest of the posts up as soon as possible. :)

Sincerely, The Duke and EsMay

Tuesday, February 07, 2017

Last Night

I want to thank everyone that wrote to help calm me down.

All that work up, and nothing happened.  Our daughter got a fever, and with freezing temperatures outside, we decided we had to keep her home, and the Duke did not want me to go by myself.  So I ended up not meeting with my sister after all.  So now I just hope this is the end for now.  I am sad that things have gotten to this point, but the Duke doesn't want me talking to her anymore.  And that actually feels great.  This isn't my decision.  I would decide to keep putting up with the abuse, feeling I had to to keep our relationship going.  But the Duke sees that that isn't good for me.  I feel such relief that this decision is made for me!  I don't need to feel guilty for stepping back either, I'm just obey my husband.  It's out of my hands. :)

9 comments:

  1. So sorry your daughter is ill, EsMay but really happy you didn't have to deal with your sister. Never feel as if you have to remain in an unhealthy relationship...doesn't matter if it's sibling, parent, spouse, etc. If it's not healthy for you...end it. Proud of you for obeying Duke.

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

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    1. Thank you, Cat. She seems to be doing okay now. I wonder if it was her 2 year molars. All 4 are coming through and she's miserable. I do agree, I once had to cut my parents off for a year and a half. Now we have a good relationship, and they even live with us now. So I know this can still turn out good, possibly. :)

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  2. Hi EsMay, I'm sorry your daughter is unwell and hope she recovers quickly.

    Glad too that you didn't have to deal with your sister, though I had really hoped the meeting would bring you some closure.

    Sometimes all you can do is say goodbye to a relationship, especially if it is damaging to you. I'm glad you feel relief, and you should in no way feel guilty. Good on the Duke!

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Hi Roz, thankfully she is doing much better. We think it was teething. Yes, I am glad I feel no guilt. :)

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  3. EsMay I'm so glad you are back. I'm sorry you are going through this with your sister. I went through something similar with my family last year. Now my two favorite siblings don't speak to me, and my mother's huge family have all got a terribly twisted story in thier heads and are not very nice to me now. No one bothered to ask me what really happened, so i'm not tryin to force them to listen to me, just trying to let it go. I am so glad that I have my sweet man. Our immediate family is what is important and we will be each other's support now. I am glad the Duke is taking up for you and taking care of you. Focus on your family right there in your home and remember you have lots of friends who love you.

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    1. I am so sorry you're having such a hard time with your family too. At least with me it's only her and her immediate family. Though thinking for months that most of my family felt the same as her, was hard. I am sorry you are going through that. And thank you, I am blessed by friends and loved ones.

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  4. Sometimes things work out in a way we never expected...
    hugs abby

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  5. While I am sorry to hear your little one is sick, sometimes things have a way for working out for the best. I am in a similar situation with my youngest sister for different reasons, but Sir gave me an order for no contact after a bad situation occurred in 2014. While I often wonder how she is doing, I hear through the grapevine that sadly she has not changed her ways and how she lives her life does not mesh with our lifestyle. It is sad, but the choice has been hers all along and I am ok with where we are right now.

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Please feel free to leave any comments, but I do ask you to be kind. We go into this with eyes wide open after months of prayer, and a peace in our hearts that this is the right choice before God for our marriage. I am open to questions from those who wonder why we made this choice, but I would ask for no personal attacks. Thank you. :)

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