Sunday, February 02, 2014

An Apology

The author of this site let me know that there is already an HoH Day, and so I am sorry for any toes I may have stepped on.

http://adomesticdisciplinesociety.blogspot.ca/2012/10/head-of-household-hoh-appreciation.html

I have already written him an apology letter, as I honestly did not know there was another HoH Day. I had looked around google search and checked with some of you seasoned bloggers.  I honestly did all I could to try to avoid this very mistake because I didn't want anyone hurt if an HoH Day already existed.  So, if anyone was hurt, I am sorry I missed this post, and am sorry that you were hurt.

I have also found the email from the original poster of HoH Day in 2012 and wrote them an apology letter and hope they receive it.  Their blog is no longer posted to, so I cannot guarantee they still check their email, so if you know of a more current email for Cowgirl, I'd greatly appreciate it. 

Again, I am truly sorry if anyone was hurt.

***  Thank you for all the supportive things you guys have been saying.  I had hoped to do this event yearly, and seeing how everyone feels, feel that I will do so. :)  I am glad I did not step on toes.  So I will keep the award, and next year, do another one for either February 1st, or the first weekend of every February.  Before next year I'll ask around to see what people think would work best.  I am glad you guys had such a wonderful day focused on your HoH. :)

32 comments:

  1. Hi Es May,

    As far as I know there isn't an 'official' HoH day. Cowgirl published a post as a one off stating she had decided to spend the day showing appreciation to her HoH and said in her post that there wasn't a day set aside for this. Her post was then re-published with her permission on the site you have linked to.

    As far as I am aware, it didn't become an 'official' day. Personally, I think it is a great idea and want to thank you for suggesting it.

    Hugs,
    Roz

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Thank you, Roz. That really means a lot to me. I was really worried I had made a mistake, and only wanted to do a day that could be fun for everyone. :) I am glad that you liked it. {{{hugs}}}

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  2. Es May,
    Cowgirl is a really sweet person who has been away from blogging for over a year. A bunch of us got to know her and really enjoyed her and her blog. I hope she may still come back someday if that is right for her. I think she would likely smile at someone else out here celebrating an HoH day and her toes would feel just fine. Don't worry too much okay? Hope you and the Duke had a really good day yesterday.

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    1. Thank you, Susie, this means a lot to me. I promise to try not to worry too much. :) And we did have a very good day yesterday, thank you. And I am glad that she is the kind of person taht would have smiled at us celebrating or HoH's. :)

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  3. Oh EsMay, I already mentioned to you on your original post that there had been an blogger that did HoH Appreciation Days once a week for her husband Blue. That was Cowgirl who Susie and Roz mentioned. I also told you it was different than your idea as it didn't involve blogging about it and it didn't involve everyone in Blog land
    BB over at ADDS liked the idea and put it on HIS blog, too. But it was totally different. And you know what even if was completely the same> who cares? We all live this life and ideas and analogies are going to cross over and seem new to us but most likely have been said or done before. In the long run it really doesn't matter. It is not like the idea was copywrited .

    Like Susie said, Cowgirl was a sweet lady and many of us miss her very much. I'm sure she'd be very happy to know that others think the same way as she did. Remember ttwd and blogging by an extension of it is to help YOUR marriage, don't worry about everyone else. IF Duke enjoyed it, that is reason to be happy. If other couples benefited because you mentioned it ....even better.

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    1. Willie, thank you for putting it all into perspective for me. That is true, it is likely that most ideas have been done before, and that is why I looked so hard for this idea before. But I guess if I was meant to find it, I would have. And this was just a fun day for the Duke and I, and I am so glad for other couples that wrote about their day. All in all, this day was just to show the Duke how special he is to me, and thankfully, he said he felt that very much yesterday. :) Thank you, for putting this all into perspective for me. {{{hugs}}}

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    2. Great, the Duke just read your comment, Willie, and he said "What? That woman did HoH Day once a week? How come we don't do it once a week? And since today is Sunday, and the start of a new week, don't you think today should be HoH Day again?" Uh oh, I think I did HoH Day too well!

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    3. LOL...um sorry. But ya know....he could also start a movement for Subbie Appreciation Day ( copy right Wilma Rubble...bwahaha)

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    4. LOL, Will let him know to contact you then, now that you've copy righted it. ;) LOL

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  4. Ditto what everyone's said above! Nobody "owns" this HoH Day idea and the more appreciation out there for our guys, the better:)

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    1. Thank you, Tess. :) And thankfully, the Duke felt very appreciated. :)

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  5. LOL! Your Duke has a great sense of humor doesn't he. I do not think you have stepped on anyones toes at all, I read the link did not seem like anything official to me. Besides an HOH, TIH appreciation day might be a different date for all, kinda like a birthday, I get a Birthday MONTH, some get a birthday week, some a birthDAY. I am so happy I found your blog and was able to be a part of HOH Appreciation Day. Thank you Es May!
    (((hugs)))
    honey

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    1. Oh, Honey, he has me in stitches all the time! lol. You get a birthday MONTH??? Okay, Duke, see, if you get HoH Day every week, I get a birthday month, just saying. ;) And Honey, I am so glad that you got to be part of the special day too. :) {{{hugs}}}

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  6. No apology needed. You had a great idea and shared it with your friends. We're personally grateful in our house. I'm glad you and the Duke enjoyed it. That's what really matters.

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    1. Oh Leah, I'm glad that it worked out so good in your home. :) And you're right, we had a wonderful time, and that is what matters. :)

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  7. HoH Day - celebrate yesterday, today or tomorrow. It's whenever you want it to be and don't let anyone else rain on your parade.

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    1. Hehe, thank you, Leigh, I'll remember that. :)

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  8. Yep no problem EsMay. I didn't "know" Cowgirl but I read some of her posts and she seemed very sweet and I am sure this wouldn't have bothered her. It didn't bother any of us! xoxox

    love
    sara

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    1. Thank you, Sara, it is good to know I didn't offend anyone, because that was the last thing I wanted to do.

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  9. Personally I think this is a fantastic idea!!!! I'm am a HoH why wouldn't I lol
    I promoted the first time I saw this at a time when "Appreciation" was a theme being shared by everyone in the blogging community. A week later I started Bonnie Appreciation Day and that was a wonderful and fun experience. We should all come together in The DD Community Chat Room and make the HoH and TiH Appreciation Day stick as a yearly event!! :)
    PS... Cowgirl is still around in others areas of this community a little bit, but just not in the blog part right now.
    Respectfully,
    #MrBBSpanker

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    1. I agree MrBB no matter who posted it first, who started it really doesn't matter at all. It matters most to show appreciation to your HOH/tih friends who are in the community that we all should appreciate their efforts to rally everyone together in old and new ideas.

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    2. Yeah, I really would like HoH Day to stick yearly, well, actually twice yearly... I told the Duke if it looked like it would work, I'd love to try to do one in August as well. It's just, our HoH's do so much for us, and they deserve to be honoured. :)

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  10. Es May, you can never say nice things about another too many times! You are a very special soul and the world needs more like you!

    I like the way The Duke thinks!!

    Blessings,
    George

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    1. LOL,, you're a guy, of course you like the way he thinks. ;) ;)

      And thank you for the compliment, George. You always make me feel so good about myself.

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  11. EsMay... you did what you could to do the research. It really doesn't matter who the originator is in my mind, just that the thought is put out there. I for one appreciated it or I would never have known there was such a wonderful event. Thanks for helping us new kids on the block.

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    1. Catherine, well I am glad that you liked the event. :) And welcome to our block, it's a fun place to be. ;)

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  12. Fiddlesticks . Esmay, what you did was great. Surely if we all want to join you in a hoh day for our husbands we can do it when we like. Don't worry about it sweetie, I am sure that HoHs everywhere will be happy there are two days for them!! I didn't realize it was an official thing just something you and your blog readers all got together with. What shall we have next?
    love Jan.xx

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    1. LOL, thanks, Jan. And it wasn't official, just a day I wanted everyone to have fun on. :) Next? Well in March I'm thinking of doing the Spring Fling Challenge I did last year, it was nice to have the community supporting each other on personal goals... I'm still thinking on it. :)

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  13. Hey Es May...You DO NOT owe an apology to anyone!

    First of all, yes, CG did have an idea which she posted about and there was some talk of making it 'official' but that never happened. Here's the link to her blog and the post she wrote: http://www.cowgirlupandride.blogspot.com/2012/10/hoh-appreciation-day_5.html Look around her blog and you will see what a beautiful person she is.

    Secondly, showing appreciation is never a bad thing even if there were multiple 'appreciation days' in the year!

    You have a beautiful heart with a lovely and loving idea...DO NOT let ANYONE make you feel badly or 'less than' for that idea.

    Hugs and Blessings...
    Cat

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    1. You know, Cat, I think multiple days a year is a good idea, no matter who starts them. :) And thank you for the compliment, you too, always make me feel so good about myself. {{{hugs}}}

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  14. I'm just going to say "ditto" to what Cat (and everyone else) said. LOL.

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