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Sincerely, The Duke and EsMay

Tuesday, September 03, 2013

It's Clicking

There hasn't been a lot of eye opening revelations for me this week, but I think the Duke is finally stepping into his role, and not just stepping forward.  He's becoming the Head of our Household, and not just trying to be.

Some things he's done lately just because it's becoming who he is.

1.  Taken over driving when I was having a hard time

2.  Told me not to swear when a bad word came out of my mouth... in all honesty, I'd just made this huge salad, it took a while, I was flat out exhausted, and then when I went to put the lid on, half the salad up ended into my silverware drawer... I mean... come on... you guys see my side in this... right??? ;)

3.  He's getting unbending in my bedtime rule, which is allowed to be made earlier apparently if I'm showing signs of fatigue... I do not consider not being able to walk in a straight line a show of fatigue... just saying. ;)

4.  I was getting sick one night and wanted something from the store, it was pouring outside, I was told I wasn't going, he was.  But it was me that wanted something, so I told him it was okay, and I'd be right back.  Boy did he put his foot down fast, telling me I was already sick and he was going to see to it that I didn't sicker.

And when I look at the past month, it's been growing and growing.  Here are some things that happened throughout the past month.

5.  A friend asked him and I over to hang out, only to find out at the end of the phone convo with me it sounded like we were going to some kind of sales party, but for some weird reason my friend wouldn't tell me what he was selling.  My friend has bipolar, and is sometimes an easy target for those wanting to take advantage of the weak, and this REALLY bothers me.  The Duke talked to him, sounds like some kind of pyramid scheme, and so the Duke spend some time talking to him, and also saying we wouldn't be interested.

6.  The next door tenants were giving us a lot of grief, and so the Duke went over and handled it all for me.  They'd manipulated a situation and said I'd said something that I HAD NOT said.  They asked to talk to me apparently, and the Duke said they weren't going to talk to me about it, and told them exactly what I had said.  When the Duke confirmed with me later to make sure I remembered right what I had said to them, I told him I could do one better, I showed him the email I had sent all the info in.  It was so good he backed me up.  I did feel hurt slightly that he had to check back with me, but I understand his doing so as well, and he never once let that on with the tenants, thank goodness.

7.  I have been getting more quick spankings, like 10-20 on the spot spanks to show he's serious about something when I don't quite think he is.

8.  When we were camping, something upset him, normally he'd never tell me, and I'd never know, but this time he did.  I felt bad, but it's showing me a way in which I can help avoid frustrating him again.

So nothing major to report, but it is nice to see the Duke settling in, and not just trying to live this lifestyle, but actually living it and it becoming something we just do, and don't have to work so hard at now.  He even told me today he's feeling more like it's who we are now.  This week or two, the Duke has really had a lot click in his head, I can see it.  He's also hugging and cuddling me more... so not complaining about that. :)

Hope you are having a good week. :)

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  1. I didn't think that was how you were supposed to "toss a salad" honey.

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    1. Hmph... not sure I should reply to this one on the grounds that it may incriminate my behind! ;)

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  2. Seeing your nicely prepared salad end up in a drawer isn't much fun! I'm so on your side with that one ;o)

    TTWD is filled with growing pains. It seems that the two of you are in a comfy place at the moment ;o)

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    1. Thank you for siding with me, Bleuame. ;) Oh, you are so right about the growing pains, no one ever warns you about those... but probably good they don't, or we'd be scared off and not realize the beautiful blessig waiting for us. :)

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  3. Must be in the water girlfriend.. The Man is growing by leaps an bounds.. and when I don't hate it.. I LOVE IT>...

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    1. LOL Dana, that or they're talking to each other behind our backs... hmmm... maybe time to check their phones? KIDDING, ;) I'm with you, I love it, most of the time. :)

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  4. I'm with you on the salad. I did the same thing a while back. We had about 20 guests and I was rushing to toss the salad and tossed half of it right in the floor. Thankfully they were all outside when I did it and nobody heard my thoughts on the matter.

    And if Steve ever considered not being able to walk in a straight line as a sign of fatigue, I'd never leave the bed. I can't walk straight to save my life. I'd fail a sobriety test even if I was stone cold sober.

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    1. LOL, Dana, I had a friend say the same thing, she said she'd be in the drunk tank in a second if they pulled her over, no matter when. Wow, that must suck.

      LOL See, I should have been preparing the salad when the Duke wasn't around, and in all honesty, for 3/4 of the time I was putting it together, he was no where around... timing... grr.. lol

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  5. I think tossing your salad out of the bowl is reason to say whatever flies out of your mouth! It's so nice to just live this life rather than having to work so hard to try and live this life. I'm so happy the two of you are at a comfy place!
    Hugs,
    Kim

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    1. Thank you, Kim. :) And I'm with you about the salad. Did you hear all these people siding with me, Duke???? ;) Sorry, so often everyone sees his point of view, that I'm liking the shoe being on the other foot. ;)

      And yes, it is so nice to just bein this place now. :) {{{HUGS}}}

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  6. I am so happy for you, you two seem to be in a really good place. It's such a sweet spot to be in, especially because of all the work you both put into it.

    Glad to know I'm not the only one who get's send to bed early on the regular..I hate it, but I'm asleep in like 2 mins flat!

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    1. Thank you, Jennelle, it really is nice to be here. Oh, you are FAR from the only one... many of us out here in DD land can tell you of our bedtimes... I know it's good for me, but sometimes I feel two years old and want to say "But I don't wanna!" lol Yeah, that would really prove I'm not tired.. eh? lol

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  7. Yeah for the hugging and cuddling.

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    1. Yeah, sunnygirl, it's nice to get to this place.

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  8. Hey honey :)

    I'm so pleased for you both, sounds like things are moving along just nicely :) about the salad, totally agree, I spilled the little ones juice all over the counter and I ly realised I'd said something very wrong, when I saw Balu coming towards me from the corner of my eye lol shit happens as they say lol

    Hugs x

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    1. LOL Oh Missy, I can almost see Balu coming at you! Oih, hope your bottom was okay after that. :) {{{HUGS}}}

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  9. Hi Es May,

    I'm smiling from ear to ear reading this. I'm so happy for you both. So glad to hear things are going so well with you two and that ttwd is becoming an ingrained part of life now. That is such a wonderful place to be :)

    Oh .. and I'm with you on the 'salad tossing'. I think that justifies whatever came out of your mouth! LoL

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Thank you, Roz. :) It is a great place to be in, and I'm so thankful we're here. And thank you, going to have to let the Duke know how everyone is coming behind me on the salad, hehehe. :) {{{HUGS}}}

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  10. I'll tell you why*I* thing this post is great, because these are 'little' things that are HUGE! I think many women in a Dd relationship( and I have been guilty myself) look for earth shattering, bullwhip-type revelations of an emerging HoH.

    In truth they do build up slowly and in increments. At least for some. It is important to not only look for those increments but see them for what they are. Great job EsMay!

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    1. Willie, I am guily of waiting for those lightning bolt moments as well. But they didn't happen that way for us. But each time the Duke gets more assertive, more in charge, more sure of himself. No huge moments, but looking back from a year ago, a LOT of ground has been covered. I just have to look at the greater picture, and not the moment by moment growth.

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  11. YAY! You all sound like you are doing really well. I am so happy for you. Isn't it amazing when things start clicking? I cannot for the life of me explain why or how ttwd works...I am just glad that it does :) Your Duke sounds like a pretty good guy.

    Hugs...

    ~Lucy

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    1. Lucy Lou, it is amazing when things start clicking. :) I am not sure I could explain how this all works either, but I'm in the same boat as you, just totally glad it does. And yeah, he's a keeper. ;) {{{HUGS}}}

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  12. Isn't it great when we start to see those little signs of their leadership?

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    1. Yes, Jason Girl, totally great. :) I love him leading, truly.

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