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Sincerely, The Duke and EsMay

Saturday, September 07, 2013

Enjoying When It's Good

You know, a few weeks ago, Callie M had a post about televisions in the bedroom.  I really liked the post.  I have to admit at the time I could freely say that we had one in the bedroom, but that it never got watched.  And I mean never, I could probably give you an accurate count of the times we needed it in the five and a half years we've been married.  But this week?  That totally went out the window.

I've been sore this week, so after a long day at work, I've wanted to lay down.  So I'd grab my laptop after supper and head to lay down on the bed.  I'd have my feet up near the headboard, and my head down near the foot of the bed with the laptop in front of me, I'd be propoped up with a feather pillow under my chest and slightly up on my elbows.  So... the Duke, wanting to be close to me as much as I want to be close to him lately, came into the bedroom those nights, and turned on the TV, got netflix up on the wii, and watched some TV.  {Had the wii in there while my parents were visiting and haven't put it back.}  Now, we looked so much like the picture on Callie's post, well I was laying down, but the Duke is up against the headboard and I'm spread out.  BUT our difference is that the Duke sits there and rubs my bottom.  *blush* hehehe  He will at times give a smack or two and laugh.  I pretend to be indignant, lol.  If I sit up more towards the head of the bed, he sits and rubs and scratches my back.  I keep turning around to show him what I'm doing on the computer, and we talk.  It's amazing how much we can do two different things, and still be so engaged. :) 

This was NOT us a year ago.  If I was sore and went to lay down in the bedroom, the Duke would have stayed out in the living room on his computer or watching the TV there.  We would have had nights and nights, weeks and weeks, heck, months and months of little to no communication.  It was killing me.  Now, even a night we're not setting aside for just the two of us, is becoming great bonding times. :)  I got to share a lot with him too about what I'm learning in other blogs that I'm reading, and get his opinion on church work I do on my laptop, and just chat more.  It's amazing how many small little areas this lifestyle has blessed for us.

Have to say, as much as I never used the TV before, I'm so glad it's in the bedroom now.  lol  I won't be in there often, hoping the soreness in my body leaves soon, but so glad it's there for now while I need to rest. :)  He is so good to me. :) 

Last year I was crying, wondering how I'd survive another year of marriage, my heart dying inside of me feeling so unloved and not wanted.  Now, I want to shout my love from the roof tops.  I know there are many spills and mistakes a head, we'll both hurt each other, and outside things will hurt us, and I want to tame my joy knowing that.  But I'm realizing something.  The good times come, the bad times come.  Do I really want to diminish my joy when it's good?  Right now I could be focusing on the fact that it's another month I'm not pregnant.  Another month the tenants next door are complaining.  Another month we don't have our own house.  Another month I still am not at the weight I want to be.  Another month the apartment is not as decluttered as I want.  But I'm not, I want to revel in the good.  I want to revel in what is going right right now.  There will be hard times, but maybe if I fully enjoy the good, and not sit and wait for the bad, the bad won't be so bad.  I've never let myself truly enjoy the good, because every time I tried, something HORRIBLE happened next.  Here's hoping nothing horrible is around the corner, but if it is, not enjoying right now won't stop it from coming.

Oh, and found a wooden hair brush yesterday.  I'm in desperate need of a new hairbrush... so it's yet to be decided if this is for the Duke, or for me. I'll let you know how that turns out.  I guess either way, it'll be used on me.  lol

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  1. No TV in our bedroom and I like it that way, but I hear what you are saying! No hairbrush here either so you must let us know how that works for you or does it belong to Duke?
    Meredith

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    1. LOL He tried it for maintenance, and it took a lot to swing it, and it really didn't hurt much... though maybe I shouldn't have admitted that. LOL So now it's for my hair. :)

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  2. Our bedroom TV rarely gets used too. Usually only when the grands are here.

    Happy to hear how contented you seem. A better place for all.

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    1. Yeah, I think if the TV got used in the bedroom a lot, we'd have to remove it. I wouldn't want it to become a distraction. And thank you, sunnygirl, I'm glad to be this happy... I didn't know I could be and am liking it.

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  3. We do have a tv in our bedroom. We usually watch the news together before bed and we use it for noise, when we need a bit of privacy.

    I'm happy to hear how happy and content you feel!
    Kim :)

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    1. I suspect when we have kids, we may use it for noise as well. ;) And thank you, Kim, it's good to get to this place.

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  4. Ahhh, you paint such a lovely picture Es May. I love that the Duke came into the bedroom with you to watch TV instead of staying in the living room ... and that he rubs your back ... and bottom LoL.

    I'm so glad to hear how happy you sound. You should absolutely revel in the good!

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. LOL Thanks Roz. :) And it was nice... really made me feel spoiled. It's suprising me how much he's touching me, he's never been like that. I am really liking it. {{{HUGS}}}

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  5. Such a wonderful post Es May. I think you need to revel in the good, it helps you get through the not so good...

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    1. Oh Dana, I hope you are right. :) I'm really hoping it will make the not so good better. :)

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  6. I'm glad that you weren't completely like the picture in that post ;)

    Keep smiling :)

    Callie

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    1. Nope, that would be so sad if we were. But when it happened, all I could think of was your post last month. LOL And thanks, Callie, I will definitely try to keep smiling. :)

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  7. I'm so happy you're enjoying the good times, I hope they continue forever!!

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    1. Oh Jennelle, wouldn't that be so wonderful. :) To have all the bad behind us, and all the good ahead. :) *sigh* :)

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