When do you know when to step back? Step up? What makes you realize you're not submitting, or that you are, but you're in the wrong mindset?
The landlord is someone I literally would have punched in the face had he been here today. I have not been able to get someone here to fix the roof yet... and that means the tenants have not been able to use their bedroom for a week now. This is driving me insane, and them too.
So my landlord called last night and said he got a number of a guy off this weird site, and so I was really apprehensive about it. Still, this morning the Duke called, and talked to the guy. He came out today, and I was the one to talk to him and his partner. They took a quick look over the roof, and the ceiling that had leaked. As I followed them out of the apartment to ask them some questions, no word of a lie, they RAN to their truck, jumped in and peeled out of the driveway.
Hmmm... NOT GOOD. Exactly how bad is that roof then? The first contractor that promised to do the job will no longer get back to me, and they literally run from me? I'd only ever seen that in the movies before now.
So now I'm talking to some men in my church, asking if they have any ideas of who I should talk to, know of any reputable companies or men in the area that can do the job, and so forth. But tonight I asked the landlord a question, and he told me to just get the job done. I was livid. It's his fault it wasn't fixed last year. We were not told about this when he left. We were just asked to mow the lawn and collect rent checks. The guy he told us to call if there were any problems with the house is a guy that has been given less than a year to live and had no idea our landlord told us to call him.
So here is my question. The job is really the Duke's, but he gets overwhelmed very easily, and I'm trying to figure out how to help him so that he has less on his plate. But if I'm getting overwhelmed too, am I making things worse? In my wanting to help, am I taking over when I should be letting him grow? He did so well the other night, I was so thankfully shocked... should I just back off again? Let him take over?
I really did start out wanting to just help him, but now I do wonder if I've bitten off more than I can chew. I wonder if I've made him feel once again that I'll come to the rescue whenever things go wrong so that he doesn't have to... he hasn't said so, and I really do have to ask him, and I will, just haven't had a chance to yet, but I really think in trying to do the right thing, I did the wrong thing.
Thank goodness one thing we learn is that mistakes happen. You know what... I think I'll take five minutes now, and see if he has time to talk. I want to make sure we're on a good page together, and that he doesn't feel like I'm trying to usurp him. I do believe in him, I just wanted to help, but it might look to him that I have no faith in him, and I have to make sure that isn't the case.
So anyway, does that ever happen to you? Do you find the same, that you were trying to help, and it totally backfired? I'll let you know how the talk goes.