We had to take down all our posts for a while. We did not realize that to put them back up would repost them in everyone's feeds. We apologize for that. We also will do our best, as life allows, to get the rest of the posts up as soon as possible. :)

Sincerely, The Duke and EsMay

Monday, June 03, 2013

Life & FREE EBOOK by Gary Chapman

I don't know what happened with my challenge this week. :(  I gained a pound again.  I'm basically back where I started. :(  My only comfort is that my clothes are feeling looser.  I have started having a large smoothie for breakfast with fruits and vegetables.  I used to not eat breakfast, so this is a big step, or if I did, it was all carbs/grains.

I won't lie, this week I have done so much work around the house that I did not get much exercising done.  Probably only three days worth of exercising.  This past week was my birthday, and so I got a shelving unit to help me organize the guest room.  Even though I organized it before, one wall of the room was just piled neatly, but unorganized.  So I got a shelving unit for my birthday, and loved it so much, that when it helped me only organize half the stuff, I went and got another one. :)  It was for all the baby and kids stuff we have.  I love having kids in my home, so when families visit, I want to have some toys for them to play with.  So that took up one of those kids cube shelves, 3x3 cubes.

But then I still had all the baby stuff we'd accumulated in garbage bags that I don't want to give away in case I can get pregnant again.  So that is what the second shelf was for. :)  They took a couple hours each to put together, and then a couple hours to sort through everything the way I wanted.  I also found more stuff to give away.  Since I started a couple of months ago, I can't seem to stop working on the apartment. 

Pretty soon I'll have to stop giving stuff away or we won't have much left.  LOL  In all honesty, if I could reorganize two more shelving units in my home, and do another run through on the bedroom, and get to two shelves in my bathroom, I think my house would be perfect.  But I've said this a few times already, and then started over again with reorganizing and giving stuff away.  So who knows once I attack those if I'll still feel the same again.  lol.  The good thing though?  The Duke told me yesterday that the guest room/office now looks like a photo from a magazine!  *sigh*

On my birthday, the Duke and I had our first disagreement in a long time.  It was hard on me.  It was short, and it was something I felt was his fault, but I feel I could have handled it better myself as well.  It only lasted a minute or two, but having gone so long without words, it really bothered me that we'd breaken down like this.  We haven't had a spanking since we stopped maintenance.  But I'm wondering if we should bring one out for a night.  I'm not sure I feel I need one, but I'm wondering if he needs the role affirmation.  He's slipping back to being unsure of himself... so I think that in the next few nights I'm going to ask for one.  I want him to feel the authority I'm giving him.  And if that means I can't sit down for the next day or two, so be it.  We have family visiting for the next three weekends, so it might be good to get any stress and role affirmations dealt with before they come. 

Today there is a free book by the beloved author Dr. Gary Chapman.  He wrote the Five Love Languages Book.  It is free on Amazon.ca and Amazon.com for sure, and maybe other Amazon sites as well for your ereader.  If you don't have an ereader, and want to know how to get a free ereader program for your computer, just let me know.  That way you can still ready it from your computer, and then when you do have an ereader possibly in the future you can move it over.

Dr. Gary Chapman - Happy Ever After

I hope you enjoy.  I am once again behind in blogland.  I have not forgotten about you guys.  I just have been so busy, and work is crazy right now, and maybe I should stop organizing a bit and get on here more. :)  I promise, PROMISE to do so soon.  I have Friday off, so hoping to catch up on blogland if I haven't by then.  Until then, I hope to get a few blogs in a day. :)


  1. Again, don't be too hard on yourself with the 'number' on the scale. If you feel good, don't fret. Keep at it and you will continue to see results. Having breakfast is the best way to improve things!

    Also stop worrying about us!!!! Organize you mind, ie finish what you want around the house, so that when you come back to us, we have your FULL attention!

    I think asking for a spanking sounds like a good idea. You want to be strong and sure as a couple before your company arrives. So many things can throw a wrench into ttwd. If you feel like a spanking will help BOTH of you, you should talk to your husband about it and see what he says.

    Good luck!

    1. Thank you. I did end up asking for a spanking. I thought I didn't need one, was I ever wrong! And I think I'm getting to the place where I can stop worrying about the house for a while. :)

  2. Hey EsMay,

    It's great that your clothes are looser! Try not to worry about the scale - it can make us bonkers! It's more important how you feel and how you see yourself when you look in the mirror.

    And I agree with Willie - I think asking the Duke for a role affirmation spanking before your company arrives will probably be beneficial for the both of you - I hope it works out that way. <3

    Thanks for the free e-book recommendation!

    :) Cali

    1. I hope you like the book, I love his writings so far. I did break down and ask for the spanking, it was just what I needed! :)

  3. Glad to see you back, and thanks for the recommendation on the book! :)

    1. I hope you enjoy the book. I have not read it yet, but it looks so good. :)

  4. Hey honey, glad to hear from you again.

    Sounds great about your house, you're doing really well. Kids things do take up a lot of space don't they, we just have lots and lots of toy boxes that stack up and just dump everything in them lol great mum I am hehe

    Don't worry about blog land honey, we all have lives to lead and if there's time left over, we can come here and hang out x

    Wow it has been a long time since you've had a spanking, I always wonder how that must effect the dynamic, but you should ask for one, only if you feel the need for it, if you think it would help you reconnect and not just because you think it should be, if that makes sense.

    Good luck with all the guests soon, I know how stressful that can get x

    Hugs and happy birthday, sorry I didn't know, or I would have said it earlier x

    1. You know, I have had a spanking now, and we realize now how much it actually did mess up our dynamic. It's something we're talking over and spending time thinking about. And thank you for the Birthday wishes. I purposefully kept it a secret. :)

  5. HI Es May,

    Wishing you a belated Happy Birthday!

    You are doing so well with your challenge. As the others said, don't fret too much over the scales. Your clothes are looser and you feel better. That's what counts.

    Don't you worry about blogland. We all have our times where things are crazy and blogging has to take a bit of a back seat for a bit. We will be here when you are able

    Asking for role affirmation may be a good idea. I agree with Missy though. You should only ask if you think you need it to reconnect.


    1. You know, it really did help reconnect. So much. And I have some good news to share in my post about weight loss! :) Thank goodness. :) Also makes me realize I have not been on in a week!

  6. Happy Belated birthday my friend.

    1. Thank you. :) I had a good day. :)

  7. Es May, Happy Belated Birthday. Hope it is a great year. Since I am so late in commenting here, I just hope that you all figured things out. I guess because we are human, we slip. I always feel bad after a little spat but if I look back and think that I was still right, it is hard for me to feel real bad. Don't tell Ty that. Lol Maybe maintenance could return just not on any set schedule. Just have maintenance when it is needed to reel you in or make him feel better. Hugs to you

    1. LOL, your secret is safe with me, I promise not to tell Ty.:) I want to sit down and talk to the Duke about what you said here, maintenance when I need it, or he needs it. Thank you. :)


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