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Sincerely, The Duke and EsMay

Tuesday, April 16, 2013

What "Bones" Taught Me

So, the Duke comes up with these one liners all the time that just crack me up.  I thought that you might like to get to know the Duke a bit more before I head off into what "Bones" has taught me about submission.

The other night when my parents were over, we gave them our bedroom and we took the futon in the livingroom.  We were joking about after they'd gone to bed, and for some reason, like in my last post about pinging the Duke, I got the urge to do it again!

So... I pinged him... right squared on the nose!
Duke: I’m not a cat
Me: That doesn’t mean I can’t punish you like one *failing miserably at not laughing while saying this*
Duke: Yes, that’s exactly what it means

A little bit later the Duke was trying to jokingly smoother me.  I wanted to sleep.
 
Me: *complete with sleepy whine* I just want my space
Duke: My space? Isn’t facebook enough for you? *complete with laugher*

So, as you can see, I'm married to a stinker! :)

Anyway... I promised to tell you what I'm learning about submission in the show Bones.  First of all, let me just say... the character of Booth, SO SEXY.  Not because of how he looks, but because of how protective he is of the female lead, Bones.  She is independant, has had to basically take care of herself since her parents disappeared when she was 15.  Booth is an FBI agent.  He is alpha male, protective, can be demanding, and has these cute goofy quirks.  But every once in a while he makes a demand of Bones.  Usually this involves her fighting for her independence and him fighting to protect her.  But all he has to say is five little words for all of this to change.  He will look at her with pure worry in his eyes and say "Can you just trust me?"

Five little words that turn her from defensive to submissive.  Her whole face melts, and her eyes, you can actually see the submission filter in to allow him to take control.  Once she does that, she lets him lead, she lets him take care of her, she does what is asked of her, because deep down, even though she doesn't trust the world, she knows she trusts him.

There are times when she's in danger, and she is told not to believe that Booth will come through, but she does.  He's been there for her, he's protected her at the risk of his own life.  She knows to trust that he won't give up until she is safe again, and that in itself is a submission to not worry.

Now, don't get me wrong, there are still times they fight, there are times he doesn't ask her to trust him and do as he asks and she takes off on her own, but seeing the times she does give in, the times she does trust, it's just beautiful.  She comes to depend on him like no one else.  She knows he will take care of her, be there for her, and help her sort out the things in life that she can't.

I just realized this while watching Bones on Sunday.  And it's something I'm going to talk to my husband about.  Five little words, but I think if he can remember to say them to me at times, it will mean a world of difference to us.  She knew she could trust him, but sometimes the heat of the moment makes us forget we can let go, and she needed to be reminded.  Sometimes we just need the right words said to us to change everything.  When I'm worried, and the Duke can take care of it, I need to be reminded if I'm caught up in the heat of the moment that I DO trust him. 

16 comments:

  1. Saw a link to your blog on the Learning DD forums, and thought i'd check it out. :) Love what i've read so far! Bones sounds great, I haven't watched it yet, but one of my favorites is Castle and it seems like there are some similarities in a way.

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    1. Kenzie, nice to meet you. :) And thank you for dropping by. Oh, I really like Castle too. :) We don't get to see it anymore, but up until two years ago we were big fans. :) I really do think if you like it, you'll like Bones.

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  2. Can you just trust me? What should be the easiest thing is often the hardest.
    Bea

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  3. Who knew that five words could be so difficult?

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    1. sunnygirl, they can definitely be difficult. :) It's not fair that so few words ask so much of us.

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  4. Hmmmmmm? Dd Educational TV. Perhaps I shall have to watch the new Hawaii Five 0 more often. ( that guy is hot...I mean an alpha male also) I might learn something :)

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    1. Sure, Willie, sure. We'll believe you that it's only because he's alpha male. ;) I might have to watch that, my dad was saying this weekend that he's gotten into that show.

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  5. Had to comment due to my love for Bones.
    I can see the dynamic you speak of although Bones herself is FAR from submissive. She is kind of an alpha female and having to raise yourself creates that.

    "Can you just trust me?" Five, very simple, but very strong words. I have heard variations of those words from Seth and it is a bit of a wake up call.

    Nice post!

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    1. Oh, Definitely alpha female. hehehee, but when Booth asks her to trust him and she does, my knees just melt! :) That is sweet... er, annoying, that Seth does the same. lol

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  6. Wow Es May, .. and this came from a TV show! So maybe TV can be educational after all?

    I agree. Five little words but it can make all the difference to hear them, and remind us.

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Oh, DEFINITELY educational. ;) Actually, the Duke and I like to play wrestle, usually starts with tickling, and sometimes I don't realize how fragile parts of the body can be. And I almost pulled a move on the Duke that I at first thought was innocent, but as I was starting it, remembered on Bones them saying that if you hit that area just right it will kill the person! I tell you, I pulled my arm back so fast it wasn't funny. It's scary to think that in just playing around, I could have killed him. :(

      You are right, it's great that in such a short sentence we can be reminded to step back in line. :)

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  7. Isn't funny how once you start to live in a DD lifestyle, how you just see signs of it in other things? God bless you and yours, Belle L.

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    1. It is totally funny. The Duke and I will be going along, hear something that makes us think of DD, stop, and look at each other and smile. ;) It was funny, while playing a board game with my dad and mom the other day I pulled a move my mom pretended to be upset about, and told the Duke he should take me over his knee! If she only knew! We just looked at each other and blushed. LOL

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  8. I think that would be wonderful

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    1. Yeah, now to just to get him to agree to it. :)

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