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We had to take down all our posts for a while. We did not realize that to put them back up would repost them in everyone's feeds. We apologize for that. We also will do our best, as life allows, to get the rest of the posts up as soon as possible. :)

Sincerely, The Duke and EsMay

Sunday, April 28, 2013

First Post from The Duke

Hello. Allow me to introduce myself. I am known as The Duke. I have been EsMay's husband for the past few years, and in the last few months I have also became her Head of Household in the DD lifestyle. This is my first post in Blogland and I am doing this as part of an activity from Boot Camp Weekend.


This particular homework assignment is to start a DD journal and you can post it on line if you want to. As EsMay already has hers, I have decided to start mine, and EsMay has allowed me to be a co-poster on hers so that I can get all her viewers right away ;) Boot camp has been a lot more fun and exciting than I had expected it to be. The lecture time I think was very helpful to us as a couple, and these homework assignments have allowed us to start some things we have been meaning to like a budget, a set of rules, a contract, and this here Blog post you are reading.  Also, I really enjoy planning and leading these sessions, even though it is just the two of us. I like the feeling of being charge, and that people (well, just me and my wife really) get to do the things I would like them to do. Today is when the real fun of Boot camp starts, the spankings! :)


When EsMay first came to me with the idea of DD, I was curious but also scared, as I did not want to do anything that I thought might be "weird" or "dangerous". However, as I learned more about it I found that it was not anything too out there, and also realised how much it could help our marriage. I feel that as a husband, I was not much of a leader because of a lack of self confidence. However, the principles of DD, including the spankings, and being able to tell my wife what to do, I feel this has "given me permission" to practise being a leader and has built my self confidence, where I can now do things like Spank my wife and do this Boot camp weekend. It also has made our bedroom life more exciting, I think because I enjoy the feeling of being in control.

I haven't seen a whole lot of John Wayne movies, but I have liked the half-dozen or so movies I have seen him in, and thought the user name was also appropriate because of the famous scene in McLintock. Also, I respect the man and what he stood up for. Also, I liked the old GI Joe cartoon as a child (showing how old, or how young I am), as well, I played a Duke in a couple of Shakespeare plays (yes I am an amateur community stage actor as well) making it all around an appropriate screen name. Anyway, I hope today goes as well as yesterday. Have a good morning everyone!

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  1. Hope it goes well for both of you. Welcome to blogland Duke.

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    1. Thank you for the comment Sunnygirl. I believe it will go well for us.

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  2. I'm just a reader for about a year now.. But welcome to blogland :) I hope it all goes well on the path y'all are seeking :)

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    1. Thank you April. I hope you keep reading.

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  3. I hope the day goes well for both of you. Welcome to blogland!

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    1. Thank you for the comment, TL. It has gone really well for us so far.

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  4. Nice to meet you! Wishing the best for both of you.

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    1. Thank you for the comment Sarah. It's nice to meet you too.

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  5. I applaud you both for devoting time to each other to make your marriage stronger. I hope it is a positive experience for both of you! :)

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    1. Thank you for the comment Kim. I have realized that marriage is so important that spending time like this is really just investing in our future happiness.

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  6. I have often wondered where you and EsMay got the nickname "The Duke" - I love the John Wayne connection - he's definitely a man's man (and a woman's man)! But along with being strong & dominant, he's honorable, he's forthright, he's no-nonsense, and when he loves, he loves with absolute unwavering devotion (even if he has to convince the lady to agree!) All wonderful qualities - lucky EsMay!

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    1. Thank you for the comment Daydreamer. I unfortunately don't believe I measure up right now to all the good qualities John Wayne exhibits in his films, but I am working on getting better.

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  7. Duke welcome to blog land and lots of luck in theat boot camp

    Bob

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    1. Thank you for the comment Bob. Boot camp has been really great so far.

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  8. Very exciting to read posts from Hoh's! I am really hoping my StrongMan will agree to do some posts later on. I have asked him about doing boot camp too, not sure what he will decide on that. Either way, it's all good. :)

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    1. Thank you for the comment Sara. I was very intimidated about posting on a blog like this, but I see how much enjoyment EsMay gets from it, and I am glad we have something like this we can work on as a couple. Bootcamp is defintely a time commitment, but as we do not have kids right now and we both have the weekend off it was an easy decision to make. It is definitely worth the time.

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  9. Thanks for sharing. Your perspective is appreciated.
    Bea

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    1. Thank you for your comment Bea. I understand there are less men then women posting on the DD blogs, so hopefully I can start to balance things out a bit more.

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  10. Hi, Duke! My husband can identify with much of your post about taking the wheel in the marriage. Nice to meet you! I love when HOH's post.:)

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    1. Thank you for your comment Mixie. I'm glad to hear other men can understand me on here.

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  11. Very good to hear from another HoH, Duke. Yes, Wayne was a great American and McClintock is a good film.

    Which were the Shakespeare plays you were Duke in?

    I started reading EsMay's blog a few weeks ago - I think in February, but your post has inspired me to read right from the start, which I will do today. I wish both of you every success, which I am sure you will have anyway!

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    1. Thank you for your comment Malcom. I am having trouble remembering which specific Shakespeare plays I was in as a Duke character it has been some years and I am not the biggest Shakespeare fan, but I am pretty sure one of them was Measure for Measure.

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    2. He was also in Taming of the Shrew for sure. I'll have to go back and look at the photos to see which plays he's been in. :) But Measure for Measure was the best Duke role he played actually. :) He was also in Twelth Night, but not as a Duke. But even though it wasn't Shakespeare, his role in Gas Light was my favourite! Up until them, my meak husband never raised his voice, and then on stage he beats his wife, strangles her, yells at her and just is right out mean. Everyone asked if that made me afraid of him. I said NO! At least he's taking it out on stage and not on me! ;)

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  12. Welcome to blogland Duke! I'm a little behind on reading as I saw that EsMay has already posted to the end of the boot camp experience but started here to say, "Welcome". Thank you for sharing with us! :D

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    1. Thank you for your comment Christina. I am glad to be here in Blogland.

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  13. Great post. I, like many of the other ladies, like to hear from the husband's side. It helps us know what goes on in the male mind, as we go on this journey. Looking forward to hearing (well reading) more. I hope that y'all get all you want from the boot camp experience. God bless you and yours, Belle L.

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    1. Thank you for your comment Belle. I think I got more even more than I was expecting from Bootcamp.

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  14. Hi Duke, sorry I'm a bit late to the party, I just wanted to say it's great to hear from you and Welcome to blogland! It sounds as though you are making great strides in your journey and I wish you both the very best. I am so glad to hear it sounds as though boot camp was a positive experience.

    Hope to hear more from you. It is always great to hear the HoH view on things.

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Thank you for your comment Roz. I feel like I really have just started on my journey and have a long way to go yet, but every journey starts by just putting one foot in front of the other.

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  15. Nice to meet you, Duke. I hope boot camp was a great success!

    M.

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    1. Thank you for you comment Maryanne. I really feel Boot camp was a success overall.

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  16. Welcome to blogland, Duke! It's always nice to hear the other side of the story, so I look forward to reading more posts from you. :)

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    1. Thank you for commenting Grace. I hope I can have some good Blog posts for you to read.

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