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Sincerely, The Duke and EsMay

Wednesday, February 13, 2013

Submitting My Body

My husband and I talked about a lot of things last week that were DD related.  One was that he wanted to know how far his rule was allowed to go.  Just chores?  Just making improvements in how I live my life?  I told him as far as he wanted it to go being led by God.  He told me that he was going to take that as rule over my body as well, and asked how I'd feel if he chose to go to me for his pleasure at any time, even if it was the middle of the night.  (Please note, I've never withheld intimacy from my husband) I admitted that we can't do this if I work the next day, I literally cannot function if I don't get enough sleep, and not being able to drink coffee, I suffer horribly the whole next day with brain fog, migraines, a body that won't wake up, and so on.  But if he wanted to try in the middle of the night when I had the next day off, we could.  I told him it wasn't about control not doing it on days I work, but my needing to be able to function.  He said he understood, and since it was his job to take care of me, would not push me to do so at the risk of my health.

So imagine my surprise this morning to be woken up and hour and a half before his alarm on my day off!  He was showing me with body language alone what he wanted.  I was so tired.  I just wanted him to go back to sleep, I just wanted to go back to sleep.  I was going to tell him so, also reminding him how late he went to bed last night and that he'd be tired today, when something made me stop.  I had told him last week that he did have the right to control my life.  I told him I would let him lead our marriage in every way, even in taking ownership of my body in ways he never had before.  It was not easy waking up.  My brain was in a fog for a good ten minutes, but I forced myself to for him.  I find it funny, I've never liked to cuddle when falling asleep, but I feel asleep against him afterwards and I really liked it.  I am so tired today, even though I was able to get two more hours of sleep.  I soon have to attack the house for at least two hours, and do two loads of laundry on top of that, hanging them up to dry.  But I'll get it done, because that is my chores for today.  That is the right I gave my husband.  I feel really put in my place today, and let me tell you, I've so needed that.  I belong to him, not only my love and my submission, but also my body for his pleasure.  Today I feel really owned, really submissive, really controlled, and I can't believe how much I love that.

I know some of you out there now have rules that you are to be bottomless in bed.  Something tells me that rule will soon be mine as well.  *GULP*

When I started this blog, I didn't realize there was a blog whose title was so close to what I picked that it is literally only two letters off my whole title.  I found it since I started my blog, and have felt sort of bad ever since, I don't want to step on anyone's toes or make anyone get my blog confused with someone else's.  What has forced me into motion about this is noticing today that also my blog link is only two letters off of a totally different blog than the one who's title mine is close to.  Had I known when I started, I would have been much more considerate because they're both in our AWESOME DD family. :)  Have to admit, you all rock.  Where would I be without you?  (Great, now I have Toby Mac's song running through my head!)

So I've been debating changing the name and url for a bit now, and today decided it needed to be done so that these people can keep their identities separated and not worry about them getting mixed up with newbies like me. :)  But I really wanted to make sure first that what I pick doesn't closely sound like someone else's.  But I don't know all the DD blog names out there. :)  So I thought I 'd show you guys the ones I've been thinking of, and maybe you could let me know if they sound very close to another blog's title or url here in DD Blogland?  The url would be the same as the title if possible.  I haven't set my heart on any particular one yet because I wanted to make sure first they didn't mimic anyone else's. :)  I had a bunch of ideas and whittled them down to these.  I'll let you know in advance if I change the name and url so that you have time to adjust your blog rolls, or what have you.  I hope this won't cause too much confusion.  Though seeing how well a fellow blogger did it this week gives me peace about being able to do this myself. :)

1. Submitting To Be Led (If I had a favourite, this is probably it so far)
2. Being Led Step By Step
3. Giving Up Control
4. Surrendering To His Control
5. Submitting To His Authority
6. Submitting To His Rule

24 comments:

  1. Hey Hun
    Ok I have to admit I didn't know about your blog name and another which are familiar. I'll admit I still don't know which one you mean :)
    You should choose what's right for you, as you said there are thousands and thousands out there, so chances are whatever you choose, might be close to someone else's.

    Ok about submitting your body, I find its the ultimate show of submission. I have given hubs this, he knows he can have me any time he wants, yes waking up to him and his desires can be difficult at times, but I find he's so much happier knowing he can have me, all of me as and when he feels like it :) but to be honest we've always had a pretty full on sex life *blush*

    As for no panties, well I only have to get in bed without, if I've been punished :(

    Good luck with choosing a new name x

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    1. That is true, my only worry is that they're both in our DD community, so want to be respectful. :) If it'd been other sites, like crafts, recipes, hobbies, I wouldn't worry. :)

      Yeah... *blush* here too, we have as well... but now... um... WOW. But after last night... I really feel that I do belong to him, all of me. I like it, I'm quite sure, I'm just still processing this new level of submission. It's weird, I feel part of who I am changing. I'm mostly glad to see her go, that part of me, but there is a little bit of me that is sad that I have to say goodbye.

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  2. Hi Es May,
    For me you don't have to change the link to your blog.
    I kind of like seeing your bloglink, it tells me that I, as a non-English speaker, didn't use total gibberish when I named the blog.
    When you would like to check on blognames, you could take a look at Bonnie's site. She has probably the most complete and actual list of DD/spanking blogs.

    The no-panties rule is universal in Blogland. How else can he put his hand on your bottom, to protect you during the night?

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    1. See, until you said that, I had no idea that you weren't an English speaker from your very first spoken words. :) And thank you. I have visited your site often, and am usually very observant, I am not sure how I never noticed before that my link so closely matches yours.

      Ah... that's why the rule for no bottoms... hmm... lol

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    2. OH, and checked Bonnie's site, thank you for the idea! :) The name I am thinking of most wasn't there, nor do I think one that is close. :)

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    3. Lol Bas
      I had to laugh at protecting the bum on the night :)

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  3. I think I like the first name choice the best. And I certainly am not aware of all the DD blogs that exist either, but like Bas said, Bonnie's blog is the place to check. I totally get what you mean about how much you love that. ;) Oh and I love Toby Mac too! ;)

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    1. Thank you. Since Bas is okay with the similar blog link, I think I will just change the name. :) I love that you love Toby Mac too. Some of his really rough stuff is a bit hard on the head, but the rest, I LOVE. :)

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  4. I like the first name choice also. If you do change it, make sure you let us know!!

    We don't have a rule like that but I'm always available to my hubby anytime ;) It has always been this way.

    ((Hugs))

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    1. Yep, I was right... it happened again, I'll have to really double check that all the comments go through when I tell them too. Sorry about that. Or I might just put it so they go through automatically. I have only had one spam in two months, so I should give it a try. :)

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  5. I totally get the handing your body over to him. The no knickers rule? No way. H understands this and will take them off if he wants but he always gives them back to me afterwards and I put them straight back on.

    That said, I'm not allowed to wear pj pants, I don't own any anymore anyways. I have a plethora if nighties to choose from though.

    Callie

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    1. LOL That is cute. :) If he does give me the rule, it'll be a nice excuse to get some nighties. :) I don't weird pj pants, but do wear comfy cotton shorts.

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  6. Hi Ez,
    All the names choices look good.
    I agree that physical submission is part of the package though I don't know that we've actually talked about it. I don't remember refusing Alec's attentions unless I was sick.
    As for no panties. Goodness I hope that doesn't become a rule at my house but if it does, I'll comply.
    Hugs, Catrinka

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    1. I have to go back and look how I wrote my post. LOL I really only meant not to wear my shorts anymore, but I must have said undies as well because a few people have said the same. lol I have never refused him either unless I was sick or way too tired, but he also never asked in certain situations... so this could get interesting. :)

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  7. Es May,
    I think my original post disappeared. Or I was half asleep when I posted it :P

    I like the first choice! I get the submitting your body thing. It's like that here but pretty much always had been.

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    1. Thank you... hmmm, not sure, I'll double check my comments to make sure none are waiting moderation, it has happened once before that when I clicked to post all, it missed one. That's awesome about submitting your body. Glad to see so many women here do. It drives me nuts when I hear women say they make their men wait weeks or months in between. :(

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  8. Hi Es May,

    I like the first choice for your name change if you have too, but hey, we all know who is who, is it is between you and Bas :)

    Submitting your body fully to your Hoh...yep been through that here too.

    Now..Am I the only one who sleeps...well...au natural? The new rule here on the nights that he wants me to 'submit' is to get undies and Pj's on...just so he can take them off again....such a waste of time!

    Hugs

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    1. Yes, I think I'll keep the link because he is okay with it. :) The name though is different than the link, and so my name is only different by two letters than a different blog altogether, so I might change the name/title still. :) LOL See, if I had a rule to be au natural, my husband would so what yours does at times, lol, just to feel like he's disrobing me and having that control. They can be quite the stinkers, can't they? ;)

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  9. LOL...just saw the title The Sounds of The Silence and thought..what the heck!! That is my hoh nickname...and someone has called their blog by the same name!!!

    Um..ok, so brain still not in gear yet, still being sick....had to have a look to see who it was....they started the same time as we did even!
    Looking a bit closer...only to find out that it is actually my hoh's blog...sigh...really must get some sleep...

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    1. Oh, Hez. {{{HUGS}}} Still that is quite cute that you got all excited and then realized it was your husband's blog. :) :) I hope you get the sleep you need. Going on several weeks of being sick myself, I know how much you need it. :)

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  10. Hi Es May, I too totally get how this makes you feel. As for no bottoms to bed? Not a rule here, although they usually don't last long anyway LoL.

    Great name choices, I think the first is my fav too. As the other's have said, Bonnies blog is the place to go to for existing blog names.

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Thank you, Roz. :) Yeah, I went to her blog, and was AMAZED. It IS quite the list. :) LOL they don't last long, that's probably a good thing for your marriage. ;)

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  11. There is something about being available for the other whenever they desire physical closeness. It's a mutual submission that is very fulfilling.

    I'm glad Bas wrote you b/c I was going to suggest sending him an email. He's among the sweetest HoH's in all of blogland and not likely to get his boxers in a twist over names that are close. I wouldn't worry about changing it unless it's something you really want to do.

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    1. He is very sweet. :) I've been reading him for a while now, and not sure why it was only yesterday that I clued in to how close our links are. :) I am going to keep the link the same now. :) But with my title, I think I'm still going to change it so it's different than another blog's as well. :) I am loving how open all the couples on here say they are about intimacy in their marriages. It's not quite what I'm used to hearing in the every day, and I love it. :)

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