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Sincerely, The Duke and EsMay

Sunday, January 20, 2013

All Dressed Up

I am so tired, but I'm trying to force myself to stay up so that I'll sleep in a bit longer tomorrow.  I work until 10pm for the rest of the week on the day's I'm on, and for the last few days, I've been in bed by that point.

Last night I couldn't get home because the roads were so bad.  So a friend that lives just up the road from where I work said I could crash at her place.  I was talking to my husband at 9:00pm on the phone, and I was wiped.  He said I should go to bed within the next hour.  I wanted some time on the computer, but also wanted time to visit with my friend.  So I asked him if I was at least in bed, could I work on my laptop for half an hour.  I felt like a kid asking if they were reading, could they stay up a bit longer!  LOL  He said that I could.  I put a little video on to watch in bed on my laptop, but realized later that it would end three minutes after my husband asked me to be laying down and ready to sleeo.  So I called him and he said that would be okay.  I actually ended up being 6 minutes late because I also had forgotten to take my meds.  When I told him about it this morning, he said that because it was for my meds, he wasn't upset. :) :)  YEAH, and WHEW.

Then today, when I got to church, and he got to church (our friend drove him in since I still had the car) he looked at me and said he liked how I was dressed.  But I had my coat on the entire time, and wondered how he could really tell.  I was all dressed up because I had to go to work after church, and it felt kind of nice because I don't really dress up.  Well when we got back to my friends to grab lunch just before I had to go to work, I took my coat off, and his face lit up in an appreciative smile.  I laughed and smiled back, then asked if he really did like me dressed up, and he answered with an enthusiastic yes.  This shocked me, because there has been times in our marriage where I have gotten all gussied up and asked him what he thought, and he'd look at me blankly and ask me what I meant.  When I'd tell him that I was all dressed up, and did I look okay, he'd shrug, tell me yeah, and that I looked the same as always.  So now it's really weird to me that he noticed today that I started dressing up for work, and I can only attribute it to our change in relationship.  Now, if he's noticing my clothes... what else is he noticing????  This might actually freak me out a bit!  Hopefully all in a good way though.... eek!

8 comments:

  1. When I had a bedtime rule...or as I prefer to refer to it, a guideline regarding when to go to bed, lol...Michael always gave me some leeway. He wasn't worried if I was in bed on the dot, but neither did he want me taking advantage of that fact to linger a bit before going to bed. I'm glad your husband wasn't upset about you being 6 minutes over. And how sweet that he noticed and appreciated that you were all dressed up! :)

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    1. Yeah, I think that is how my husband was too. :) And I KNOW! He never notices when I try to look nice, it really made me feel good. :) Btw, Michael is the name of the son we lost in 2011... I love seeing you write out your husband's name, it makes me feel a connection. :) He also had my husband's name, and a friend's name who passed just before he was born, but Michael was his first name. :)

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    2. Oh Es May, Michael is a very special name to you then. I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how heartbreaking it must be to lose a child.

      My son's middle name was going to be Michael, but when my husband's father passed away we decided to give our son his grandpa's first name as a middle name instead.

      (((((hugs)))))

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    3. It is very special. :) I honestly don't know how I got through. It's a real a real hell on earth, I really don't know how else it could be explained. But I got through it. Some days are still really hard, but I have a lot more good days, and only about one bad day a month, if even that now. I had a great husband, great church and a great God, and with all that, I'm somehow still here today and finally ready to face tomorrow.

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  2. I seriously think that when we start getting our heads into this way of life, we become more observant of our spouse. The little stuff starts to take on a life of its own. It's sweet that he noticed what you were wearing.

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    1. As long as said notice will not notice I like to stay in my comfy clothes on Saturdays! ;) :) It is sweet he noticed, I still can't believe it. :)

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  3. Ok so I'm reading your blog backwards and have to comment lol
    How nice he noticed you like that, it warms the heart doesn't it.
    Bummer you have a bedtime rule, must be hard but he is linient with it so that's nice.
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    1. It does warm my heart... but I'm afraid that I might not get away with my not so flattering comfy clothes like I like to wear on my days off. :( We'll see, today starts my weekend, I'll see... if I did dress up on my days off, then it definitely would be for him, and not work, so maybe I can wear my comfies until he gets home, and then just before hand dress up for him. :)

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